
I want a brother/sister relationship so bad !! Without any sus romance

with those brothers? i tell you one thing...dunno if you have siblings and if you ever had really really hurtful situations of betrayal by your own siblings (even if not blood related, you were seen by the world as siblings so it is the power of the word you know)....but nope....never...may be have a finally peaceful respectful but distanced relationship, as they are adults and bound to meet and speak, but no necessary overstepping of any kinda boundaries that go beyond two (forced) acquaintances....why would you want a relationship with people who treated you like less than human for all your life ? you can forgive them to let go of them and move on from the influence of the past they embody and be free....but never forget though....and especially the lesson their behaviour thought you ergo to fucking never get close to them in any way and never let your guard down around them....it is something that still may make you very sad during emotionally mellow days remembering how you have supposedly people that are your family on paper, but having never really had something like the love and relationship of a family before....it is something that you have to stay aware of whenever you are in danger of feeling lonely....constant battle for the rest of your life to keep being self aware and mindful and catch your feelings before they become emotions and trigger depressions or some shit....anyway....giving people who hurt you way to deeply the pleasure of forgetting that actions have consequences duh nope...

Janet : Yeah I'm rooting for Reynold redemption but idgf about Derrick...
Sweety : And yes I know exactly that their relationship wasn't healthy at all but it depends on everyone personnality. As for me, I will never forget the trauma that my family gave me and I will never forgive them. But I'm willing to create an other relationship maybe a litlle healthier with some distance for sure but between a brother and sister, there is not this pression as a father (who hold authority) and daughter for exemple. But yep as you said, it will not be a healthy relationship and I think it really depends on the perdonnality of the MC : will she be able to forgive everything since she wasn't in this world since the begining ?

I know what you mean. I did that with my parents. I talk to them normally and to my mother even more relaxed I would say, but I did cut off my emotions though. So nothing they do will ever have crazy impact on me mentally or emotionally. Let's say I grew and trained my emotional intelligence to the max now that I can even handle my parents without feeling anything too deep. I still sometimes react to certain clues our interactions give me like old times, as if I am some computer set in motion like DUH, but it gets better and I am way more aware and immediately reflect on stuff as well to not do it again. I feel comfortable with them as people now, especially as I am A daughter. Like stoicism says, you have roles in life if you want to or not. Some you choose, but some are just there since the beginning. For your OWN sake, your own virtue and piece of mind/body try to uphold the responsibilities your roles carry AS BEST as you can (not perfect as nothing is perfect). Even if your parents are shit, that doesn't matter now does it? You are doing your job as a daughter, it is their loss and their shit to deal with if they want to be shit people and shit at dealing with their responsibilities and life. Like all I do is just feel pity more and more, for people who cannot deal with life. Especially if they are way older than me. Like shouldn't you have understood some things by now? You still do the same useless stuff since forever. What a dedication to never grow and become a better version of yourself. HOW PITIFUL. Is what I think. And that is also why I am so detached from them, even though I am in regular communication with them and ask about their health and well being and stuff. It also does me good, as they help me out. We are not designed to be alone after all and having people in your life to be interdependent with is way more pragmatic and "secures survival rates (brain is happy)". Anyway. Like in the past I was a very gloomy spiteful kid and got more and more dark the more I went along with anger and shit. But now I am so at peace, knowing I control myself and nothing can rock MY mind from it's peaceful state if I don't allow it to. Sure stuff can happen outside of myself, but then I deal with it. But my mind is my possession and I refuse to be occupied or dragged down by things that have nothing to do with me, like the behaviour others choose to show infront of me etc. That is also why now, I can genuinely congratulate my dad for finally being fit and healthy again and doing sports again and loosing weight etc. Like you would be happy for any other acquaintance. Nothing deep, nothing overly empathetic. Just socialising and being a daughter. :) Hope it makes sense? But I am aware there are people and circumstances where it is better to never EVER cross paths with family, even parents and rather they are in prison and far away or even better off dead than even 50m close to you. So yeah....depends really on the situation. But here. Derreck really is a piece of a pathetic shit and Reynold seemed to be super influenced by the behaviour of his dad and big bro and his hurt over losing a younger sibling and didn't know how else to handle but to become a bully and blame it all on her and he is reflecting I guess. I would still not give him the pleasure of ever being close to me emotionally and getting to know my true self without any guards up and shit, but I would have a respectful nice platonic relationship with him though. I would also try to be not at odds with the dad, as he is influential and can help her. Dereck should be kept in check and at arms length and only get nothing more than "hello, good-bye" from her.
I'm crying so hard about this one. I could talk about it for hours but the way they show the reality of society with women who killed their violent husband to escape them gives me chill. Like women will always be at fault. If she didn't fight for her life, it would have be her fault, but when she fight for it, she becames a witch. Also, I love telling myself that being a witch is a metaphor of survivor, women who been abused but succeeded to fight for their life. I love this story so much