
I think Tak is trying to be honest after his reflection that he can't love like in the movies, but the way he talks (as the author wrote) is made to come across as misunderstanding, because it sounds horrible. If it was supposed to be normal, he could have just explained to Sanho what he was thinking before
realistically it must be terrifying to stay married to someone like qiyu. you know that at any moment a stranger could say something bad to him, qiyu will believe them instead of you and then you can go back to being tortured and having your family killed