while we may have forgotten how freaky deaky the uke was, just remembering the reason behind his supposed "talent" was that he was often getting non-conned by his ex so... erm... yeah that experience r not of good origins vro
There's a scene from the game Clinical Trial game that seems relevant to your comment.
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DUDE: the last thing I want to do is make you feel
uncomfortable or make you feel like I expect something to happen
ANGEL: what if I want something to happen
DUDE: it's just with what you've been through ANGEL: how long after getting assulted am I allowed to want stuff to happen
DUDE: Angel ...
ANGEL: youre the mental health professional you tell me. Do I not feel bad enough? Am l acting too normal? Am I moving on too quickly? Do I seem unreliable? Am I not acting like a real victim would? How bad should it hurt? If I kill myself would anyone believe me then?
DUDE: Angel, I believe you. I have never doubted you for a second you haven't done anything wrong
ANGEL: I don't want to be treated different because of it
DUDE: That makes sense it was wrong of me to say something so presumptious.
"
(I couldn't remember dude's name)
Anyway our uke is not only a victim. He has been going through therapy a couple of years now and getting better. So let's not pigeon hole him.
Sorry for not clarifying but this comment was meant to address comments that were labelling him as someone being a "long-time freak" and that they "forgot" how freaky he was. While yes, I agree that making his identity solely tied to his traumatic backstory is not the way to go, I did not write this comment with that intention of tying him down to it. It doesn't shift away from the fact a majority of his gained experience was from being non-conned, something some people in the comments have seemed to overlook. I did not mean for this comment to give off "guys he was an SA victim, so let's not
bro even his thoughts are self-centred wtfff "I was so happy back then" "I wonder if he was as sad as I was" and "what happened to us?" GIRL that last part has an underlying narcissism to it because a.) Implies that Garam had a fault for their breakup(NOT TRUE BTW) b.) it takes off the responsibility for what he did during their time tgt (as if he didn't go date someone else after pulling the carpet under Garam's leg) c.) It makes it look like he couldn't have done anything for garam when he couldve not said Garam came unto him to his mom but noo he had to put Garam under the bus to save himself.... All that backstabbing only to end up with a man again, later OKAYYY
Ikr, the audacity to ask "what happened to us?" after all the shit that he did!
id rsther die than be in his position tbh,,, the moment i see a weapon it's going straight to my head or straight to my chest idc
you people think being outed is lightwork "His family already knows so why keep him in the dark?" You do not know the feeling of having to be outed by someone else. if you aren't ready and everyone else already knows. With how his mom reacted to him dating a man, it has probably occurred in that family that the mom or anyone else really, has already said something homophobic-adjacent making him stay in the metaphorical closet. LOGICALLY,,, it would be best for him to come out on his own terms EVEN if everyone else already knows.
Bruuuuh I said the same exact thing last week and these mfs were cursing me out. I didn’t even respond. Making comments like “you don’t know how a Korean household works…” and bs like that. As if that’s an excuse for forcing someone to stay in the closet or just straight up out them.
Yes, that Korean household stuff is crap. It's not like homosexuality is exactly kosher in America right now either. But I would NEVER handle the situation this way if my 15 year old son were to ever come out to me. Because I taught my son that love is love, that homosexuality has been demonized by religious freaks. I taught him, I advised him, I have led by example. Now he is old enough to decide for himself who he gets to love and deal with the consequences of his choices, good or bad. That is what being a parent should be like all over the world. Love, accept, trust your child no matter what. If that is not how parents are acting, shame on them for letting society rule how they treat their children and it is time for change.
considerate...of you?the same man who blackmailed you?????? erm?