definitely not satisfied with how they glazed over the resolution, when it was such a huge thing for hyesung (his mom abandoned him for goodness sake), but is it just me who understands where dojin came from? on contrary to other people’s comments who rained on dojin for sheltering hyesung’s mom, i think its such a realistic depiction of a spouse’s role for dojin to take care of his husband’s mom basic neccessity even though she is estranged from hyesung. while it certainly didnt flesh the arc out as much as i would have liked it, “because she looks like you” and “because she gave birth to you” are such realistic reasons.
which translates to: because i love you and while right now you might feel animosity towards your mom, and what she did to you was wrong, i know somewhere deep down you also loved her and will not have the heart if something bad happen to her or if shes not well taken care of, therefore because i am thankful for her to have given birth to you, im gonna take care of your mom, whom by the way, looks so much like you therefore i have a soft spot for. so someday you wont regret it if you found out your mom had been in such a poor condition and nobody did anything to help her, and also you can have the closure you need when you’re ready.
ive seen real spouses with estranged parents from one side do it irl too. but dunno maybe its just an unpopular opinion. dont attack me haha just sharing my thoughts
It's not about Dojin doing anything like helping grandma so Hyesung doesn't have regrets, it's about Dojin not trusting his spouse to have a say in what is frankly Hyesung's life and destroying the trust the spouse had in him. It's how he did it without any explanation, communication and thinking he knows best.
The usual conclusion in a situation like this is 'if he's hiding something this big, what else is he hiding and lying about?" And as far I've seen in real relationships, they do not last long after a betrayal of trust this monumental, because the spouse can rarely trust the offending party again.
The hell is paved with good intentions is exactly for situations like this- Dojin doesn't have bad intentions at all, but effectively he disrespected and disregards his spouse while doing what he likely thinks is a good thing. He places his own comfort (of not letting grandma live uncomfortably) above one person he is supposed to be loyal to fornlife, effectively enabling exact thing Hyesung didn't want.
He is shit spouse for not communicating any of that and not letting Hyesung decide.
i agree, dojin wasnt completely blameless here. its soo not right for him to go behind hyesung’s back and make such a crucial decision by himself, especially when its hyesung’s mom. its just that for me, even though hes at fault, i can see where he came from. would you imagine if one day hyesung found out his mom was not taken care off, living without having enough to go by, even though she wronged him big time. i imagine he would also feel sad, on top of hating her, because essentially while hes mad at her, you can tell that hyesung loved her mom. it was also shown that hyesung didnt really get the closure he needed with his mom..they only communicated behind closed doors, shouted some, and then he told her to leave. so its clear that hyesung still has a lot of unresolved business with his mom. also just because hyesung cut off his mom, dojin mustve understand that hyesung is a good person who will never have the intention to punish her (by letting her live poorly etc) despite what she did to him. i think dojin was just being empathetic and was trying to be the voice of reason to make sure hyesung wont regret it in the future.
but yes, by going behind hyesung’s back, dojin deserves a major trust issue and disappointment arc from hyesung which idt we will be getting here
i think we both can agree that fargo did hyesung-dojin dirty by making glazing this over
But that's the beauty of choice- Hyesung made his choice of going no contact and the consequences coming from that choice, including his mom dying alone in a gutter.
We can't tell, what his reaction would be, for all you know he could have played ding dong the witch is dead and as I hear it's a hit among enstraged children of awful parents. He could have agree with Dojin, that minimal help with no contact is okay, or more likely he would chew Dojin a new one.
Dojin took that all away from him, hyesung decision, control, independence, right to consequences and trust is all gone.
I personally don't think he'd be that bothered. Most people with estranged parents grieved the relationship when it collapsed and when the parent dies, those children are mostly sad they didn't have the relationship they wanted or deserved, not that the person died alone. It's frankly rather healthy detachment.
damn everybody wanna get byul buff…but i want him to say a twink
omg lord mugo now have eyebrows?!
WDY MEAN NOW? HE DIDN'T BEFORE??
Lolzzzz girl what?
he had them but it was thin almost bald eyebrows lmao now hes got bushy browsss
is it weird if i like the guy is provoking mc bcs i have a feeling that hes actually ml’s wingman and will trigger mc’s attraction towards ml??
ugh della’s the only toxic ML i’ll tolerate fr hes so H0T
those flashbacks were heartbreaking:( shows just how people in love can fell out of love with time:(((( hate myself for thinking what if things with taeha follow the same pattern? he may follow her around like an infatuated pup now, but as time goes? it probably wont go that way bcs this is fictional and that would be too pitiful of a plot for hee seo…but it will probably happen in real life, no? omg that just went down a gloomy path, this just gave me stuffs to ponder about.
bring back the fluffy second timeline!!!! my heart keep being twisted like a pretzel at the flashbacks i cant take it
dont worry…its coming back in the next chap :)