anyone have recs like this, where both mc and ml are obsessed with each other? "uke fell first but seme fell harder" also works, as long as it's , like, o b s e s s i v e iykwim.
Have yoi read Love History Caused by Willful Negligence yet? It's a really slow burn but it is what you're looking for. Uke fell first, seme falls harder. And I mean falls so fucking hard, it's psychotic levels of obsessive love.
ooh good point that one totally counts! delulu really is the solulu for both of these couples lmao
1. i feel like it would be interesting for the story/character dev if the mom is NOT accepting, at least at first. it'll give jaehyuk an opportunity to put his money where his mouth is n show that he really isn't like the shitty ex who threw garam under the bus for his mom
2.a. i feel like if this were written by a japanese author it would actually be a bittersweet tragedy in which jaehyuk promises he's different from the shitty ex but when the rubber meets the road it turns out we are all cowards in front of homophobia/our mothers so he gets a brutal lesson before he learns to stand up to her/society.... maybe i been reading too much manga with the tragedy tag lmao
ohhh the first one is actually really interesting. Thou personally, i dont want this to be smth bittersweet or tragic bc Cant Think Straight is one of those manhwas I like to read when i want smth really silly, with no heavy plot and just ‘lets get hornet’ type of sht haha. I also think that if jaehyuk’s mom turns out 2b homophobic, he wont give a damn just like the way he stood up for Garam when his friend realised hes in love with a man. Hes so stubborn and doesnt even listen to her mom. I dont want to hate jaekhyuk anymore his old homophobic azz was soooo annoying
honestly this is how it goes irl. u push ppl away, and then... it works, which reinforces ur belief that ppl will always leave u, so u feel justified pushing ppl away. v realistic.... lolsob
Isolating yourself has the same effect. You don't even need to push people, they just leave after a while. 100% works, not recommended ヾ(❀╹◡╹)ﾉ~
idk why everyone is acting like the seme is some golden greenflag angel. uke was honest about his desires, he was genuinely turned on by getting hit. seme is the one who lied and pretended he liked it, bc of his shitty nice-guy white-knight savior complex. and then he has the fuckin chutzpah to act like consensually engaging in bdsm (that he researched!!) makes him a piece of shit. it's okay that he feels resistance to hitting someone at first, author could've turned it into a sweet story about how he is conflicted about enjoying it so he has to work thru the cognitive dissonance... but instead we got slut-shaming and this weird psychological hostage situation.
seriously, fuck this seme and the horse he rode in on.
You are like the only person with sense here. I would've also liked it if the seme just had a complicated relationship with giving pain and had internal guilt but eventually became comfortable with being a sadistic dom without any guilt and learning about how healthy bdsm is consensual to its core.
Unrealated but bl manhwa readers always have shown favoritism to semes no matter if they are red flags or green flags, and have this weird treatment of ukes who get victim blamed and slut shamed if they don't fit in the mold of the uke they want him to be.
This kind of stuff right here shows that the author isn't part of the community and has only researched it a bit. They can't think of a sub masch as anything but self-hating and a Dom sadist as being cruel and uncaring. While there are people out there (mostly men) who pretend to be a Dom just to legit hurt someone and don't give aftercare, they don't get repeat playdates and it gets around the community and they stop get playdates at all. I am a very strong and forceful person in my day to day life and if you asked anyone they would say I'm the dominant partner in my relationship. I'm the one who works and makes all the money, he has a set amount he gets every paycheck because we have a budget. He cooks, cleans and waits on me. I live like a 50's sit com dad, right up until we go into the bedroom, or he drags me there by the hair. He only get's off on giving me pain because I get off on it, if I didn't like it, he wouldn't like to do that to me. He needs me to tell him it hurts and to do it more because I want it. He needs my enthusiastic participation or he doesn't like it, nothing kills his boner quicker then me being hurt in a bad way. Controlled pain = lovely, uncontrolled pain = awful. Right now I have residual pain from our last play and it makes me happy because it makes me think of him and what we did. When I faceplanted on the pavement a couple of weeks ago and had pain for a while because of that, it didn't make me happy or feel good. If he were to slap my ass when I was just going about my day, doing things I would get pissed. He never raises a hand to me outside of play. He's gentle, sweet and very nonconfrontational in our day to day. I'm not some sad self-hating person, in fact I tend to have some narcissistic tendencies and think I better than other people. I have a tightly controlled, regimented and orderly life and that's why I give over all control to him when we play. It's a way for me to relax, to not have to worry about anything but doing what he tells me to, it's very liberating for me.
kang mincheol is an object lesson in what happens when you take yr partner for granted. that's it, that's the whole character arc.
like he started off pure and sincere, so their love was pure and sincere. but haesoo loved him so hard he started thinking he's all that and she's lucky to have him... and here we are today. he's an entitled piece of shit whose much-younger girlfriend will leave him as soon as she gets wise to him, because she might be naive but she hasn't had her self-esteem ground to dust by being with him the last 13 years.
...that the friend is like "you remember im teeechnically a foreigner, right?" as a roundabout way of telling jeongyeon that he's open-minded.
tear drops from a bottle will kill ya. only drink natural tears straight from the source.
how can he be a scientist and also say "the more variables, the better" that's not how this works, that's not how ANY of this works!!