
"it's all my fault, i hurt her by not properly communicating and neglecting her, so instead of working to improve our relationship and changing my ways, i will let myself drown in self-pity and further not properly communicate and neglect her."

I don’t mind that he’s finally fucking off. It’s what she wanted. The problem is that he chose to do this WAY TOO LATE. She was so close to finally leaving and then he found her last minute which only drew attention to her and put a huge target on her back.
When that lady was all like “you thought you had a place next to him?” I laughed outloud. SHE WAS CLEARLY TRYING TO LEAVE!
He’s all “if only I had convinced her to come back, this wouldn’t have happened,” when really what he should’ve done is LET HER GO. Even if he did communicate at this point, there’s barely anything to salvage. She resents him, signed the divorce papers and out in all this effort to get as far away from him as possible. She’s done at this point.
You are right about the victim complex though. Since he’s ignoring all of that.

reading this feels just like watching Sophie's Misfortunes as a kid, grabbing my tv screaming ''speak up!!!! do something!!!"
i get that Erna is depressed but girl please defend yourself.. beat them up idk, give them a real reason to hate you instead of taking the injustice.
if anyone has a rec where the FL is like ''they hate me for no reason? i'll make them hate me because i'm a ruthless bitch'' please share it with me TT

uggh i hate the ''but he's only like that with you, he's so sweet with us, give him a chance'' retoric so much!! i hope they're not going to push it too much
beause, so what?? is mc supposed to feel flattered the guy can't control his emotion around him and treats him like shit? is he supposed to feel pity for this poor adult guy who can't regulate his own emotion?
i hate it!! he still has done terrible things to him, why do you feel the need to defend him by explaining how he acts around you. who cares omg

yeah you're right, they're pretty young but i still don't think this retoric makes sense. i really don't see how someone saying ''he only treats YOU like shit'' to a victim of assault helps the guy's case.
1. it feels like the classic apologist retoric : ''but he didn't do anything to ME'' to defend assaulters.
2. it kinda puts the blame on MC. everytime the guy sees MC he goes ham, what is MC supposed to think after hearing that it's only with him? it kinda implies that his actions or just him existing provoked the guy.
one is too conscious of his past actions and the other acts like it never happened.
MC isn't noticing/believing ML likes him because he's stuck on their past relationship, which is annoying but understandable.
ML tho is acting like he never avoided/hated MC at all. making a rejected puppy face when MC tries to set him up with another guide when he treated him like trash before.. sure, former MC was insufferable but ML just categorized him as a rich spoiled heir and never bothered to check the truth until now. him being like ''why is he pulling away despite my effort to get closer'' when his efforts are just asking for more guiding, is rubbing me the wrong way. please talk idk
To be fair mc really did make wrong choices before. MC worked with ML's stepmother to make the ML suffer which made the ML think MC hates him.
Sorry I just realized this might be a spoiler and I can't delete it
Where do you read the novel?
https://springofromance.com/story/sog/
Omg thank toy so much!! You wouldn't happen to know around where we are in the novel?
Sorry, I don't. I read it long time ago.