Not everyone follows their heart. Some people are more prone to logical thinking, versus emotional. Love sometimes isn't enough, either. It can be a wonderful fantasy, but if you see an end from the beginning, what's the point of starting? Someone who's been through it might view that as a waste of time when the possibility of love growing with someone else is there and could lead to potential happiness. The majority of people DO follow their heart, rather than logic, but love sometimes doesn't coincide with happiness. That's why abusive relationships last so long--because someone keeps following their heart instead of logic. Thats am extreme example, but it works the same. Love, real love that lasts, is built on friendship first, work, communication, understanding, safety and comfort. That's why people say its not good to chase the butterflies. They often lead you over a cliff. Is this always the case? No. There are normally exceptions to every rule. Obviously, this is a manga and it will probably end with a dramatic flare of the two MCs getting together, but to be honest, she wouldn't be settling if she went with her childhood friend. Love CAN grow, and sometimes it's stronger for it. They're both looking out for their futures. And that's another thing; a lot of strong, loving relationships end not because the couple doesn't love one another, but because they want/need different things out of life and their paths just don't come together anywhere down the road. That sucks, but its never a failure and oftentimes isn't even a regret. If you've tried your hardest at something and it doesn't work out, no one can blame you for that and you shouldn't chalk it up as a failure. It's a learning experience and you've exhausted your efforts and that's fine. It just means it's time to move on to a new path, a new chapter. And there is nothing wrong with that. There is nothing wrong with planning out your future and knowing what does and doesn't fit into that, no matter where your heart might be in the moment.
But, like I said, there will probably be a very k-drama-esque type of revelation and come together for the two MCs by the end.
i agree with this to a certain extent but are we really going to say the 2 main characters here really gave their relationship a true shot? they’ve just finally been honest with one another and gave up before anything could happen. this wasn’t a situation where they tried their hardest and for some reason just couldn’t make it work :/ also i like the childhood friend and i think their love could definitely grow into something more—i’m just annoyed because i know the 2 mc’s are prob still going to end up together despite all this drama Σ( ￣□￣||)
Some people don't have the courage to give it a shot at all. Like I said, some people see the end before it begins and don't even try because what's the point if it's going to end anyway? Some people say screw it and give it their all and then, when/if it does end, they feel they wasted their time. If it doesn't end, sometimes they feel they've settled, other times they are content, but not happy, and/or they end up happy but wonder about the "what if" (although I've found that in either case, the "what if" is always wondered about). It can be frustrating watching two people give up before they start, but it can often be for the benefit of them both if they don't if they know it's going to end because of some foreseen issues. Its ultimately about weighing the consequences and asking yourself, "are these consequences enough to stop me from giving this all I have?" Sometimes the answer is yes, some times it's no. It's yes for them--at least for now, because I have a feeling it will turn into a no. I've given up many potential relationships because there was no point in pursuing them, albeit for different reasons for each. In the long run, i recognized I was just not going to be happy with that person and it wouldn't be a life I wanted. But I get it. All this drama seems unnecessary. To be honest, I think I checked out of this story a long time ago. I'm just here to see if the author follows through with her going with her childhood friend, or with the mc. I hope it's the childhood friend. I can clearly see an epilogue where she runs into the mc and they're both happily married and feel nostalgic seeing one another. Or have a sad affair or something. Lol
Someone spelled Matthew's name right. That was annoying as hell (for me) seeing it misspelled. Sorry, pet peeve. Really bothers me. I have a friend of about 16 years, she has two kids that I'm godparent to and she spelled her child's name wrong so it constantly gets pronounced wrong, and I told her from the get go that that's not how it's spelled and it's going to cause misunderstanding, but noooooo.
Anyway. Matthew better apologize for barging in to a home that he's a guest at, forcing a friend of the owner's to leave and the having angry sex with said owner. Angry sex is not fun when only one of you is angry, okay! Pushing your dominance on someone like that out if jealousy makes the recipient scared, feel gross, used and violated (no matter how good it feels). Bastard.
A lot of people don't understand how the seme is angry, why he doesn't understand he's at fault and here is the answer:
He had what is called "tunnel hearing". In their break up fight, he heard a word that caused either such shock, anger, or upset (in this case "pregnant"), that his brain sort of short-circuited and he physically could not hear (normally manifests itself as a ringing). This often happens to those who hear a loved one has died, or their life has been upturned by betrayal they didn't see coming. He doesn't know what actually happened, that hes wrong, because he didn't actually hear it. He heard a word and presumed the worst possible outcome and never had an opportunity to have the misunderstanding cleared up. So he's thought for 7 years that JH cheated on him, got a female omega pregnant and then left. He now has an undisclosed chronic illness that was more than likely brought on by JH's recessive omega pheromones and can only be managed by those pheromones. To him, in his perspective and his mind and heart, JH is in the wrong. It's sad, but this does happen in real life and can have horrible consequences.
Wow thank you so much! It explains a lot now and the story makes more sense now that I think about it. I mean I just learned about it but is it kind of a self-defense the brain do? So shocking that the brain shuts every sounds around and rings to avoid any worse shocks? Or is it just a shocking action that happens.
Yes, the body and brain will send itself into shock to avoid further damage. Although, technically, you can consider this a mental break, or a break in the psyche due to the shock.
From the beginning I think he imprinted on him, so it's not really an illness. The recessive omega just marked the alpha without knowing it.. I believe
Thanks for explaining this! It really helps
You are very welcome. :)
Amazing explanation, I feel like I can enjoy the story more now thank you
I think Cain is faking not being good at Korean. He's obsessive, so it would suit his needs to have learned the native language of the one he's obsessed with and then fake being bad at understanding it to garner sympathy and/or be able to more easily impose..... I'm totally watching you Cain. I don't believe the goody goody act for a minute, no matter how good looking you are! Ut, damn, I hope I'm wrong.
Yeah ngl my mans is kinda sus but atleast he treats jooin good so im happy.
I think so too, but even though Yahwi is a rapist manipulative and Cain is obsessed, which one is better? idk I hope they don't make Cain bad.
Idk, you guys. The pattern with this author is to have you start to hate the main seme and think he's bad, then introduce a character that seems good but turns out worse. Cain has some mega psychological issues starting with abandonment. Yahwi doesn't understand what love is, how to react to it, comprehend it, or accept it. Is that an excuse for rapiness? Nope. It does explain his actions, though. His household really fucked him up, and he's showing signs already that he's going to change. I have a feeling things are going to get far worse (probably on all sides) before they get better.
..needs to end already. I was fine with it just being a poorly plotted hentai, but this is dragging out waaaaaay too much.
A girl can wear men's clothing and look sexy, a guy sure as hell can wear girl's. Some men look better in women's clothing anyway. And dresses were worn by everyone before pants were created and heels were originally made for men. Besides, its sezy as hell seeing a guy wear lingerie or tights or leggings. Btw, if you like that and are looking for other manga with a fetish, I suggest reading "Jackass". Absolutely one of my favorite mangas.
yees its so good , i've reread it so many times i can't get enough of itヾ(☆▽☆)
Shit, as a girl seeing men wear "girls" clothing excites me so much. They look 10x better than with a girl wearing it. I think it's just my preference since I like feminine guys.
I get it and I'm the same. I love androgynous men. Num, num. Lol. Actually, my boyfriend is rather effeminate, and considered rather androgynous by American standards, but he full on guy. Can't get him to do kinky stuff though. Lol. I did get him into tights once! That was a good time.
Omg, me, too. I reread it at least 4 or 5x a year. Probably more. Lol. One the best. If you also haven't read it, "Miwaku Shikake - Amai Wana" is fab as well. Dom seme who loves heels. Fair warning though: updates are taking forever and I can't find it anywhere else!!
..a more g-rated (if you can call it that with the pregnancy and all) verson of "Even if You Don't Love Me". I sense more angst and a cute kid coming up.
When you are torn between two people--one who gives you the comfort of the old and the other that gives you the adventure of something new--it is very difficult to know what's real and what isn't, what will last and what won't, what is right and what is wrong. When there is a push and a pull and very little forcing you to make a choice, the best thing you can do is cut it all off and take time, because what you need to work on is you.without strings attached to the past, you need to find out why you are so lost and what steps you can take to get on a path you can follow without regret and with sure footing. If it turns out to be a break from one of them, then that's okay, but don't make them wait for your decision, although they'll probably wait regardless. When you come back together, both of you will have changed and you can try to start anew on stronger foundation, because you'll know your limits, the lines you won't cross, the things you'll never do again. Its healthy to take breaks for yourself. It just really sucks sometimes.
As someone who is partners with a sex and love addict, I found this story very eye opening. The person who is cheating hurts their partner/s but the cheater is also hurting (especially if it is a result of addiction). I wish they mention him doing therapy or support groups but that wouldn’t be exciting. The reality is that this stuff happens, so I don’t think it should get that much hate.
Martin just corrupted a child, even though his uke (whose name is slipping my mind) is totally legal....lol
the power of curiosity and pleasure always win lol
Hahaha. They sure do.