What’s frustrating about the plot is while it’s amazing for properly showing the ebbs and flows of mental health and depression there has never been a mention of actual therapy.
tbf its rather stigmatized for men to seek out and go to therapy. im not sure if its worse in asian communities/countries but i know gender plays a role just about globally. they both really do need therapy though :(
I like this plot like I really do. But realistically they just wouldn’t work with this much of an age difference and extreme life experience and that’s reinforced by this latest chapter 19. Yiyoung would be extremely insecure having never been with anyone prior and his need to meet the standards of his much older partner would mean growing up faster than he needs to grow into himself and make the messy mistakes that actually come with his age and the growing pains of your twenties. Literally look at what’s happening with Sophie turner and Joe Jonas* for this very reason, I kind of wish we had a time skip with Yiyoung in his actual 30s before the two of them had become a thing but it is what it is. I still love this plot given how “healthy” compared anything else that’s come out lately, but it certainly isn’t realistic.
Edit: I believe Yiyoung has “dated” before but I don’t think he’s been physical with anyone before Daehyung likely
It’s Joe Jonas but yeah I totally get what you’re saying
Yiyoung it's thinking wrong. He is perfect for director Kang. He is young and will bring back the younger side of Daehyung as well. Daehyung dated only older women and he kinda lost his young self while dating them. I bet that comparing to Yiyoung the feelings that he felt with his exes were just admiration. I bet Yiyoung was the only one who cried and worried about him. He is the only one who puts Daehyung before himself. And for Daehyung exes the work comes first.
to give another example Rosie Huntington-Whiteley was 22 when she started dating much older Jason Statham, nowadays they both have successful careers, a healthy relationship and a very happy family. An age difference is not always what complicated relationships but the way a person was o was not allowed to grow and be mature enough to make certain decisions and to deal with the consequences of those choices. Sophie Turner spent her childhood and teen years on game of thrones, she never really had the chance to actually live her life before she decided to jump into a marriage. Yiyoung is young and there is a significant gap between him and Daehyun, but it is very clear how mature he is and how he can carry himself through situations that are out of his comfort zone, yes he struggles a bit, we all struggle with insecurities no matter how old we get, but he has definitely proven that emotionally and mentally he can navigate through his own life as a capable adult.
The thing is there relationship actually mimics Daehyung’s relationships in actually just in reverse. While they of course have a romantic relationship, much of their relationship is dominated by the fact Daehyung acts as a mentor to his younger partner just like Daehyung’s previous partners similarly played such a role once a upon a time. There’s nothing wrong with enjoying an older partner and seeking out maturity. The issue is Yiyoung had no life experience of his own and the expectation is Daehyung is his forever. Meanwhile Daehyung has been in Yiyoung’s shoes and lived a life that’s allowed him to grow into himself by having multiple partners, lived in various places, and taken on multiple career opportunities and roles. He knows who he is. Yiyoung doesn’t have that same confidence while entering into their relationship. Realistically he would question if he’s good enough, maybe even feel saddened or resentful that he’s settling so quickly or so young missing out on experiences to meet his partner half way sooner. It’s why I mentioned Sophie Turner and excuse me Joe Jonas because they had a similar situation and are a current public example of age difference. Sophie being significantly younger and having had a childhood crush on Joe even said herself she was insecure entering their relationship but wanted to be with Joe because she became dependent on him during her bouts of mental illness. Joe gave her an ultimatum of when she had cold feet about marriage ultimately convincing her given his own expectations and experiences he wanted for a relationship and a family within his time plans. Now we see the fall out of two very different people at different points of their lives attempting a relationship that was never at equal footing.
I will say of course age differences can work, the issue is difference in maturity, life experiences, expectations, and social/financial play significantly more a role in an age difference relationship than say a closer in age relationship because of the wider gap age has in acquiring the above mentioned.
Excuse thank you for the correction!
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My comment isn’t to say age gaps can’t work, it’s that age gaps have a larger hurdle because of two individuals having larger differences in life experience coming together. My own parents are an 18 year age gap, I truly have no issue with it as long as they are consenting adults. My point is Yiyoung is a capable adult but his personality isn’t, we’ve seen that numerous times. He’s very insecure and unsure of himself that means something, and that isn’t remedied by simply being in a relationship, that’s learning to get to know yourself and what you want for yourself in life. That takes time, that takes making mistakes, and certainly trying things outside of your comfort. Like I said I enjoy this couple but I’m making a realistic observation that they wouldn’t last if there isn’t the foundation of them coming into a relationship at equal footing. They’re not at that point at no fault of each other, it’s just simply the reality. Add to the fact how they met and the setting, there is a significant imbalance that is always the elephant in the room and is a point both have brought up multiple times and is made more apparent by their current business venture which Yiyoung points out muddies their relationship.
This is very cliche. Playboy is taught love. Virgin is taught sex.
So true...
And here we are anyway... ┑(￣Д ￣)┍
Cliches are nice once in a while ٩(๑❛ᴗ❛๑)۶
I don’t even find this sexy it’s kind of terrifying. And with the translation being confusing it doesn’t help in establishing what’s actually happening. All I see is a down on his luck guy falsely informed on a either a “easy robbery/ beat down” only to be brutally raped by some monster and later fall in love with this monstrosity because reasons….
The whole plot is garbage. From the dumb young master allowing his piece of shit crush to crawl his way back into his life after how poorly he treated and abused him. To an older brother who deeply wronged his younger brother and now suffers being raped and blackmailed by a half brother who is the spawn of human waste. The plot is utter garbage.
I really don’t understand what the author has the Ulysses and Randolph side story. You know it’s fan service at its peak for its straight cis female readers when Ulysses’s harem of men who we learned he acquired out of sport through your standard manipulation and underhanded methods that when a stereotypical masculine presenting dominate characters displays readers call foul but when a femme character does it- further playing into the very real stereotypes of “dangerous predatory” gay language surrounding men unable to hide their more obvious sexual inclination- it’s seen as a great achievement to be celebrated. Worse Ulysses has actually physically and sexually assaulted Randolph an act that got a previous shitty blond king assassinated for his harem of sexually dominated playthings subjected to regularly. It’s ironic that Ulysses is a direct juxtaposition to the Demonic king but he gets his own side story and is celebrated for it. It’s gross but ultimately is so expected why am I even bothering myself, but I do want to point out to readers that this subplot is just as problematic as the main story we so angrily sided with in hope for a predator’s demise, but here is celebrated.
This bonus backstory doesn’t actually make Taewoon better it just means he was too much of a coward to actually properly face yusung in “being there”. I understand it’s a reality of thoughts and feelings going unsaid and being misconstrued but rather it seems Taewoon didn’t want to be bothered with the reality of his importance to Yusung and left him to the wolves. It’s honestly sad more than anything else and makes me want Yusung even more not to end up with him during his second chance at life. Yusung should be happy with someone who openly loves and cares for him not someone whose roundabout indecisions literally cost him his life(happiness).
Nothing against sex workers but why do authors continue to always have a virgin x call boy as a legitimate pairing? No virgin is going to feel comfortable having a first time partner who regularly engages in sex so casually and no sex worker is going to give up their job for a partner so romantically inexperienced they are unsure in their comfort and boundaries within the relationship. It’s a trope that is so absurd in its lack in realism.
Not to mention how shitty the experience was for the virginal MC he literally paid someone to fulfill his fantasy and this man did absolutely nothing his client asked only got off the way HE wanted to. There’s no way he’d be a good romantic partner when he can’t even do his actual job of satisfying his client properly.
dude my thoughts exactly XD though I suppose calling a sex worker for your first time isn't that unrealistic especially if you're older, it's just easier that way... but the rest is a bit "ugh not this again" (￣∇￣") I wouldn't mind it if this trope was used sparingly but it's soooooo common!!! this and the mangaka x assistant trope lol I'm so tired of them but I keep on reading them anyway ╮(￣▽￣)╭ and yeah he was a total cunt but I'm curious to see how it's gonna play out even though the outcome is already pretty much set in stone ~
This must be a huge gap because he literally a child rescued by a grown adult….
I really love this but I also don’t love the ideas of putting your life on hold for someone for that long a time. I mean that’s a long time.