I’m gonna say it. Tbh the manager does need to man up. Like dude, you don’t owe your ex SH*T. Why on earth should your ability to move on to a new relationship hinge on her petty approval? She was toxic. Hasumi, get some backbone and own up to your own personal emotions and relationships. Because this approach is really rude to the FL who summoned up the courage to confess to you.
Period
Exactly. For the reason she was TOXIC he feels as if he needs her approval. Because he was in a TOXIC relationship he feels guilty even though HE was the one being emotionally abused. This is a step.
He needs this so he can move on.
The fact that he thinks he needs her approval to move on creates a path of him unintentionally continuing a toxic cycle in the way he handles relationships. No one should allow their happiness to be up to others or dependent upon their approval. The healthiest thing for him to do is take some time completely to himself to get over his ex and put distance between both girls.
It’s unrealistic of Hasumi to think that him achieving an amount of views on a project is going to magically snap his mindset into the healthy state it needs to be to be able to successfully cultivate a relationship. In fact, it’s childish. Both of them are for suggesting/agreeing to it. That is completely dependent upon himself and his own self esteem (and his ability to maintain it).
What’s sad is that he still thinks he owes the ex ANYTHING. He already explained to her how he felt and why things didn’t work. That’s all he’s really obligated to do. Past that, her closure is all on her because that’s internal and only she can give it to herself.
You make a lot of good points. Well, I guess we won’t be able to do anything about. We’ll just have to see how it plays out.
@lattegratte let me stress that that paragraph wasn’t me trying to knock your opinion. I just wanted to explain you the lens through which I was viewing their situation
Yes, I know. I’m not offended lol.
Preach!! Ive been loosing braincells over this manga but im too invested to stop at this point lmfao
The saddest thing I think is that I doubt the manga is going to own up to that. She probably will let him go instead of him coming to the realization that he owes her nothing.
The mc too, she shouldn’t take so much bullshit honestly. She’s pathetic too. Why? Because this manga plays her attitude as loable.
He was the most self centered, self victimizing, toxic, mentally abusing male character I have encountered in a Harlequin novel. It impressed me that he managed to be utterly dislikable for 126 out of 127 pages of this novel.
For Yonemura to be 30+ something, he has all the emotional maturity of a bag of rocks. Andou was patient af
This bitch right here...
Also I’m hoping the brother isn’t this much of a POS and is just trying to make this black haired girl lose favor with the emperor because he sees that she has bad intentions. I’m hoping...but he probably sucks too.
This girl is pissing me off. Any decent person would see someone trying to be a good and loyal partner to their spouse and root them on. This black haired girl though? Nah. She just like “I’ve been here one hot week. Let’s try to break up the marriage of this couple that has so far been gracious and tried to help me.”
Sighhhh. I hope there is novel magic of unknown forces screwing with her thinking and she’s not really such a terrible person at heart.
The other story for this is wayyy better. The story for the brother and his wife is 10/10. The brother is a great ML. This guy...somewhat lacking. He got better but towards the beginning I felt like he was feeding her insecurities with his words and reactions more than he was helping them. Props to the FL for hanging in there despite her trauma
So Jeonghan is one of the most toxic personality types ever. Let me explain why:
1) He dates someone for 8 yrs and not once during that relationship did he ever share his deepest insecurities with his significant other. Then switched it back to Kangwoo and said he didn’t love him enough. Apparently he developed no trust or communication with his SO after 8 yrs.
2) it is so conceited and downright wrong to judge Kangwoo’s emotions like that. I get that his own indicators likely led to it but everyone expresses love differently and Kangwoo will probably have high insecurities going forward if he (HOPEFULLY) move on to love someone else because now he will feel like the way he expresses him emotions won’t be enough or be felt by the other party
3) Jeo basically assumed that because he confessed first his emotions were stronger. But it is damn near impossible to be together with someone you don’t actually love for 8 yrs.
3) He decides not to give Kangwoo a reason for their breakup after 8 year at first until Kangwoo consistently begged him. Then decided to emotionally torture him by making Kangwoo think he slept with someone else. Peak toxic
4) He constantly acts like he needs sympathy and is the most miserable person in the world but he didn’t even want to talk out his issues with his SO but instead chose to talk to friends and the guy who clearly has the hots for him.
5) he never really pushed Gyu-whatever away even when he was in a relationship (and even acknowledged this himself) because he’s a POS
6) he uses Gyu-whatever to drown his sorrows and constantly think about his ex while they are together physically which is not healthy
7) not two hot weeks it seems after breaking up, he thinks he’s already beginning to love Gyu-whatever? Dude that happen right after he almost had a panic attack after seeing Kangwoo? How shallow are his emotions??
I know someone is going to say “oh but he has mental health issues”. Yes. I agree he seems to maybe need some healing in that department but , and I cannot stress this enough: Mental health issues do not give you a free pass to treat others like shit. If you guys are around someone who is treating you the way Jeo treats Kangwoo, not accepting accountability for their own flaws and making things your fault: leave them. Your mental health is your own responsibility and theirs is their own. Don’t try to fix them, it will wear you out mentally. That is what therapy is for.
Sorry I know that was a lot but this character made me channel my inner English major.
Couldn’t have said it better
Clap. Clap. MOTHERFUCKING CLAP.
My only hope is that this story gets constant hype and updates all the way until it ends. It’s sooo good
This is such quality relationship development. We actually get to see these character mature together emotionally and damn I feel blessed. Took so long to find a quality smut
I just binge read this entire thing in one go and I have to say....I feel changed. This is such a well written story. Fuck.