I've been out of school for a long time and I'm not close at all with most of the people I called friends or even best friends back then. I personally think it's only natural to form friendships with people when you're "stuck" in the same place for a period of time (like school or a work place), when that connection vanishes you might realize you d......   reply
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Just keep them as lunch buddy friends. Like yk at arms length.... but I get you since you've been all been friends for 5 years and it's just mad weird that they lowkey secluded you in that way... I would only cut ties if the atmosphere of the friendgroup is jst too unbearable because you don't own them your presence, but I wouldn't recommend if you......   reply
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Wow. This exact scenario has actually happened to me and I decided to just slowly cut them off. It's not worth expanding your energy with a confrontation on people who decided to exclude you long ago. Plus, people go different ways once they graduate and what not. Sometimes in life, you'll find people who you thought will always be in your life and......   reply
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yeah no distance yourself, no point investing yourself in people who wont invest in you. put in as much effort as they are putting. they help with schoolwork? cool you help in turn, nothing more. even if you dont have close friends, at least you wont have the emotional toll.. cause you WILL find people who'll put in the effort in the future trust m......   reply
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You don't have to cut them completely off if you don't wish to - you can in fact have a relationship with them that is mostly academic. This means you joke with em less, you socialize with them less and refuse to hangout most of the time. But if you need something like notes you just ask for it straight away and to the point. Cutting off people is ......   1 reply
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You could try talking about this with them and see how they react, they're obviously excluding you but i understand the feelings of having "bad friends" is better than no friends at all, just try telling them how hurt you feel if they are assholes about it i think you should distance yourself   1 reply
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i have a friend group of 4, including myself, and we’ve been friends for over 5 years since middle school. Today, I accidentally found their social media accounts and discovered that the three of them have been following each other for a long time without me. They even have streaks together???

It honestly kinda hurts... Back in middle school, I asked them if we could follow each other, but they just joked it off saying, "Ew no, you’re just gonna spam my DMs with memes," so I just laughed it off. Other times, they’d say, "I'll DM you my username later," but they never did. And now, seeing that it's just the three of them... I feel so excluded. I’m so conflicted right now. Part of me wants to distance myself or cut ties, but they're still helpful when it comes to schoolwork, like sharing notes. but when it comes to actual 'close friends stuff,' I always feel like the odd one out
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You should speak up and actively try to participate and speak with them as you get older many stop trying to speak to others they don’t know well about it’s all up to you.   reply
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sounds tough. in a big group it can be hard but try asking people how they are doing or ask them about themselves related to the club or something. shift it from you worrying about being left out, to you engaging to be interested in others and see if anything changes. usually being interested in others is a way to make better friends, like this i......   reply
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Rahrah 12 days
It seems like this definitely isn't the first time you've felt out of place with these people, and as someone who has gone through this kinda stuff, I promise it's not your fault, especially if no other group seems to have a problem with you. Maybe try getting some one on one time with the nicest person from thus group and see if you can get some i......   reply
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