Weird vibes from friends
I'm in this club at my uni and it seemed great at first. I like what we do and it's my passion. Here's the thing: I've always had this weird vibe about some of the ppl in the club. Like we do all these bonding events, which are fun, but sometimes I feel invisible. A lot of them are in different sororities, so maybe it's that commonality? It's weird like I'll try to say something and they'll either just stare like I spoke a different language or talk over me as if I'm not there. It used to really drive me crazy and I started to dread being there. It's gotten better as ppl graduated and stuff, but it's still a select group of people that i feel odd around. I don't think it's me, because in every other club, people seem to enjoy talking to me.
I got dinner with a bunch of them tonight, and i swear they were all asking each other about summer plans, EXCEPT ME. I sat in the corner and barely said anything at all. I responded to other ppl's stories, but never was asked anything. I really felt like i was invisible. I don't know if this is crazy or what. I'm going to stay in the club because im not going to give up what i love, but I don't want to feel like an outsider anymore.
sounds tough. in a big group it can be hard but try asking people how they are doing or ask them about themselves related to the club or something. shift it from you worrying about being left out, to you engaging to be interested in others and see if anything changes.
usually being interested in others is a way to make better friends, like this i......
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