Throw the whole guy away, friend! You won't regret it later on! He doesn't respect you if he can't give you the privacy. The fact that he told you to shut up proved he doesn't respect you. I'm super super close with my siblings, but would never ask them to let me see their chats with their significant others and vice versa.
Throw the whole guy away, friend! You won't regret it later on! He doesn't respect you if he can't give you the privacy. The fact that he told you to shut up proved he doesn't respect you. I'm super super close with my siblings, but would never ask them to let me see their chats with their significant others and vice versa. (๑•ㅂ•)و✧
It's gunna hurt one way or another and I think that's something generally can't avoid. Because at this point it sounds like you're being put down just for asking to be respected and that to me sounds more unbearable. You shouldn't have to ask for respect that should be a given for both. So probably a final conversation without blaming anyone (ex. When YOU do this ...) Should be more like (when this is said or when this happens this is how I feel). But not putting yourself down either because I get the feeling you're teetering on thinking you are being overdramatic... And if he can't get that then end it. Love is not love if it's boredering abuse. Why condition onself to get put down?
It can be worked through if both parties try. But you also need to have convivtion to follow through. You know what to do but it's scary to do it. But you clearly know you have to so something. So don't be afraid that you couldn't pull it off. It's in you to want to take care of youself.
1. He doesn't respect you
2. Never beg for attention
3. Next boyfriend y'all should talk about boundaries and include this experience as one of them
we talked with this one as well and he was dead set on respect and first tiem it happened he told me he was angry and when hes angry he can't control what he says so i said ok but it kept happening and hes just like ok i apologize and he repeats. maybe im stupid for letting it slide but idk maybe im tolerating to much really
Hey if it keeps happening then he's a LIAR. He needs to have coping skills to deal with his anger, not take it out on you like that. Like is he even TRYING to work on the anger? What does he do to work on his control? does he work? Bc if he lashes out like that at work then he gonna get fired real quick. Controlling one's anger is a very beneficial skill. If it keeps on repeating he's not even trying??? Look an apology is just words. He needs to show with his actions that he is truly going to change if he's sorry. It could be something you two can work on together though if you don't plan to throw him out. Ultimately it IS your choice. But if it was me I'd throw the whole guy away. He shouldn't take it as a personal attack or family insult for you wanting your own privacy. Like would he be okay if your closest family member got to read every single thing you two have messaged eachother? I don't believe so.
Relationships come and go, and it takes effort on both ends for things to work out. If it's too toxic that's when you BOTH work on it together or you cut the rope that tied you two together.
yeah you're right. He even said he wants to call and talk and he called but i was showering so i said let's talk later and i texted him im free call when you are and im seeing him come online and offline and not read my messages yeah im done..m
im so sorry this is happening to you :( but I sincerely believe it'll be the best for you, you don't deserve to be disrespected like that. if he has been like this during the ten months, then it is highly likely he wont change. if you do end up deciding to fight through it, has he considered going to a psychiatrist to check his anger issues? if he cant come up with a coping method himself, then he will need professional help before it gets even worse.
Its his sister in law, not his sister, which i think changes some things. Like u could obviously be super close to any family or friend, but i dont still dont think its right kek
Honestly speaking i think ur too good for him of course you're dating him for reasons, but i think at this pt he's taking you wayyy too much for granted. To me it just seems like for all the fights, he blames you. And since it keeps happening repeatedly, i dont think he'll think that its actually not your fault. An outcome i see is him leaving you bc he's had enough of it which makes me mad cause like all youve done is be concerned and want your own respect. And also, idk what exactly may have happened in his life so im saying all this without knowing much about u or him. And also, if you do end up leaving him, i dont think you need to go and find someone new. Plus people change. He mightve been understanding before, but over time, things just gradually change, whether or not there was something that triggered it.
Or he could be lying just to make HER feel weird
That'd be manipulative af
Life is short so ya better enjoy it while u got it. No time for someone that makes you unhappy okay
You deserve better
I don't know you but I'm deducting that you do because you have put up with his shit for TEN months
If you don't want to meet someone new just don't
But don't stay with him because of that
Also, you seem to have had bad experiences in the past so why not try to spare yourself some more
Don't give yourself more baggage by staying with him longer
Nothing excuses bad treatment
yeah he just said he was pushing my buttons but i believe thats just to get his way out of the shit he said and yeah ur right life is too short to be unhappy
Just to push your buttons? That's not very mature of him. F that.
I push my friends buttons but I'm pretty sure it doesn't end up with her being upset we laugh about it
My favorite moments with her is when she pushes my buttons
Pushing someone's buttons doesn't have to make them feel shitty
It really depends on what u push on. on a joke or so its ok but telling ur gf ud let someone else read ur messages if they asked boundaries or not is meh bot shitty
Dump him, at no point is it ok to be with someone who makes you feel like shit
Would you mind if your boyfriend lets his sister in law read your chats with him? When i ask him about her he says he can't talk about her cos he respects her privacu but he would let her read our chats if she wanted to. what would you do in this case?