
I agree with what you said about the douchy seme and the link between bottoms and girl roles in a relationship , but most authors are reflecting the norms women were the first in the receiver role in intercourse and there are other signification to gay bottons that most certainly goes back to their oedipus complex so ..is it really the plot the problem or is it the state quo of gender roles that bugs you i can't tell

even if they are, their opinion is valid. for some reason there's this toxic masculinity in this specific relationship and it's disheartening to see a partner's wishes be rejected and guilt trip that very same partner into thinking that they were in the wrong.
it's fine to have a relationship where the top is masc and the bottom is fem but it becomes toxic if your beliefs is that it ALWAYS has to be that way, especially if your partner doesn't necessarily agree. having your wishes be invalidated because "that's how it should be" is toxic and exactly what this manga did.

bruh why does that person make it sound like me being a girl is a bad thing? im fucking gay lmao and i also hear hets ask “so who’s the man in the relationship.” it’s not like it’s just queer men that have this problem. and just because i happen to not be a man does not mean i don’t have the capabilities to understand how fucked up some people’s opinions in mlm relationships are. people confuse me lmao.

dude fr. this actually applies to almost every relationship. it's the same in a het relationship how it'd be super toxic for a dude to say that a girl can't be dominant in bed and proceeds to try and monopolize her in an unhealthy way.
i can't believe people are still trying to invalidate people's opinions on gay relationships because they're not a gay male.

I dont get any of your point, really.
And no, Im not saying being a girl is bad. I just assumed girls wouldnt know how a guy would feel about wanting to top. Its in their nature man.
Plus the seme explained himself that he takes pleasure in topping. And you guys seems to forget that the seme is supposed to be a sadist. So things he said is purposely going to hurt you. Not to mention, these type of people tend to say the opposite things they wished to say, and they arent good at expressing themselves.
I get it, not many people can coup with these type of people and not everyone can understand their true feelings. They are easily misunderstood.
The uke understood him though, that's why he kept being by his side. You guys on the other hand, dont.
i am so tired of BL materials pushing this idea that it’s so bad to be a bottom and it’s “a girl’s part.” first of all, that’s so disrespectful to the gender your lover identifies w/. imagine being comfortable w/ your sexuality and gender identity until some guy just wrecks it because you want it done in the ass. second, it’s such a huge slap in the face for girls, almost as if saying “you’re just a hole, anyone can do your part.” and the fact that bottoming is supposed to be a bad thing??? how tf is taking it by the ass is a bad thing? because “it feels like you’re a girl.”? doesn’t that say more about you who don’t want to be the bottom just because of that kind of bullshit rather than the ppl who enjoy being the bottom? and also, why is switching not normalized? being a bottom does not mean you’re the feminine one or you’re the specific one just like how being a top doesn’t have a specific standard to follow. lastly, don’t fucking chase people who are like the seme. you deserve so much better. find somebody who doesn’t have flour as a personality.