Yaoi mahwas.....

Water October 14, 2020 11:09 pm

Guys I am confused. two guys are having sex then the bottom says stop and freaks out. He didn't say anything before they started the act but during the act. Is that rape?

Responses
    ✨Suujin October 14, 2020 11:11 pm

    yes

    Shironeko October 14, 2020 11:13 pm

    If the other guy does respect him and keeps on going then yes it is rape.

    lordofjams October 14, 2020 11:13 pm

    Yes. You can say no even after you start having sex. If the other person keeps going despite you refusing is rape.

    Iliketurtles October 14, 2020 11:15 pm

    If it was consensual before then its just changing your mind witch should be respected. If you then continue dispute what has been said then it would be rape as it is no longer consensual.

    Water October 14, 2020 11:20 pm

    Then that means 99.9% of yaoi content are rapes. Sometimes when the bottom says stop, I am like they probably don't mean it. I am thinking maybe the pleasure was too much or probably they feel embarrassed.

    Iliketurtles October 14, 2020 11:25 pm

    Yea but dude there not really. Normal people don't say no when there having sex. ( unless its like role play or something and then you should.discuse it before hand) Just check in with them and see what the problem is. Be respectful of your partner. No means no unless they say other wise.

    Aya3 October 14, 2020 11:25 pm

    Before the act, a person should ask the other if it's okay.
    If the permission is given, then they do the deed
    but if someone says to stop, then the other person should stop.


    If permission was given before and suddenly the person panicked and they stopped, it's not rape.
    If they continue despite the protest, yes it is rape.

    Water October 14, 2020 11:25 pm

    And is it not unfair to the seme since he is already driven by pleasure and immersed in the act. He now needs to suddenly stop and take care of it by himself.

    Aya3 October 14, 2020 11:28 pm
    And is it not unfair to the seme since he is already driven by pleasure and immersed in the act. He now needs to suddenly stop and take care of it by himself. Water

    It is not unfair.
    Sex is something for both parties to enjoy. If one person suddenly starts to feel bad during the intercourse, should they continue in discomfort which - during those situation - often leads to pain?

    Masturbation is an existing thing.

    ✨Suujin October 14, 2020 11:29 pm

    oh so now its unfair for rapists because they dont get to climax? fix this mindset please.

    Aya3 October 14, 2020 11:32 pm
    Then that means 99.9% of yaoi content are rapes. Sometimes when the bottom says stop, I am like they probably don't mean it. I am thinking maybe the pleasure was too much or probably they feel embarrassed. Water

    If your partner has those tendencies then it's better to talk about it beforehand and decide on some other "safe words".
    I know that safe words often are used in BDSM so they might feel like something strange, but in vanilla sex you can also use safe words, for example "red/yellow/green", red means to immediately stop, yellow to slow down and green to continue.

    And yes, unfortunately a lot of romance stuff has rape which isn't discussed well in those mangas.

    Iliketurtles October 14, 2020 11:34 pm

    Please don't develop your morals around yaoi. Very few are realistic to how life is. Having sex with someone who's asleep is rape, continuing to have sex with someone who is telling you stop is rape. They are not real and shouldn't be taken as life lessons or manuals on relationships and sex. There is so much toxicity in these stories.

    Water October 14, 2020 11:36 pm
    oh so now its unfair for rapists because they dont get to climax? fix this mindset please. ✨Suujin

    Ahhhh.... I am not taking about rapists. This happens in normal relationship too. I just don't want to be biased. That is why I am trying to understand from both sides. I asked because I wanted to hear people's opinions

    SummerK October 14, 2020 11:44 pm

    yeah, I would say it's rape. Irl, if someone says no- you stop. Ofc you ask them what's wrong etc etc to reassure them cause sometimes people get scared if they say no when it's during sex.

    ✨Suujin October 14, 2020 11:47 pm
    Ahhhh.... I am not taking about rapists. This happens in normal relationship too. I just don't want to be biased. That is why I am trying to understand from both sides. I asked because I wanted to hear people's... Water

    The kind of relationship, doesnt matter whether it is normal, like you said, or not normal. If the bottom says no or stop but the top still continues just because he wants to satisfy his sexual desire, then the top will be considered as a rapist.

    Aya3 October 14, 2020 11:50 pm
    The kind of relationship, doesnt matter whether it is normal, like you said, or not normal. If the bottom says no or stop but the top still continues just because he wants to satisfy his sexual desire, then the... ✨Suujin

    + it goes both ways. If, in any way, top is in a position when it's hard for him to stop (for example, if the bottom is riding him or if he's tied etc.), then telling "no" or "stop" should make the bottom automatically stop the intercourse and provide some comfort

    ✨Suujin October 14, 2020 11:57 pm
    + it goes both ways. If, in any way, top is in a position when it's hard for him to stop (for example, if the bottom is riding him or if he's tied etc.), then telling "no" or "stop" should make the bottom autom... Aya3

    I know and I get your point. But I was trying to explain that it doesnt matter what kind of relationship youre in, since the person I replied to said that it would be "unfair" for the seme in a "normal relationship". However, no means no and stop means stop. But if the person wont listen to these words, then its rape. It doesnt matter whether youre in a lovely relationship or you have no connection to the pereson at all.

    Aya3 October 15, 2020 12:02 am
    I know and I get your point. But I was trying to explain that it doesnt matter what kind of relationship youre in, since the person I replied to said that it would be "unfair" for the seme in a "normal relation... ✨Suujin

    Yeah, that's why I didn't try to correct you or anything, I just added to it in case it needed to be said clearly for some people. ^^

    So, in general: if any person stops giving their consent during intercourse and the other doesn't stop, it is rape.

    If they stop, the one who wanted to stop shouldn't be in any way shamed, and the other shouldn't feel it is unfair and instead, try to find out what was wrong and try to resolve the problem.

    ✨Suujin October 15, 2020 12:25 am
    Yeah, that's why I didn't try to correct you or anything, I just added to it in case it needed to be said clearly for some people. ^^So, in general: if any person stops giving their consent during intercourse a... Aya3

    Ah I see. I just reread your previous reply and I missed the + haha :>

    Shironeko October 15, 2020 8:50 am
    If the other guy does respect him and keeps on going then yes it is rape. Shironeko

    Doesn't respect him* (((;ꏿ_ꏿ;)))
    That was a really bad mistake on my part