BRING BACK THE FIRST GUY! GIVE US THE MILITARY NERD! HE WAS SO GREEN THAT I WANTED TO CRY WHEN HE WASN'T CHOSEN
Am I crazy for thinking that they need to break up first?
I love their dynamic, but I feel that Minato needs to work on his views on their whole relationship first. I'm not rooting for an overly dramatic flow of story (well, I do enjoy this type of story if there is growth and actual change for the good for the characters). Anyways, it just feels like it would be an usual occurance in their relationship every single time, the trauma and baggage Minato brings and how Shizuman is still new to the whole aspect of being part of the community plus his own trauma and baggage as well. I love Shizuma for being so considerate and understanding but it just feels like he'll get burnt out at some point and it would feel so sad to see their relationship break from there.
Maybe like a few years of both of them just finding themselves and working on their whole being first, I just think that both their personal lives and work lives are so intertwined that the line of how they're a couple and how they're also a seperate being is merging into one. Not sure if anyone feels this but this is just what it seems to me somehow. I get the part that for a relationship to work, you work it out together because that's part of being in a couple but there are cases where when you're both drowning, and no matter how hard both of you try to save each other you'd still sink, you have to realize that maybe if you try to swim or float on your own first, and the other does the same, you'd both stop from sinking too fast. This is just what I feel from the story of their relationship since day 1.
Any thoughts?
Yes you're crazy. Do not pray on this please, I'll cry.
Tbh I agree but I'm already frustrated with them I'm so close to crying from frustration bro
You aren’t wrong. But with the way Minato is self aware of his own behavior makes me have hope. Many couples break up in situations like this because one partner refuses to admit their mistakes and continue to do the same thing. I don’t think trauma can be fixed within some years, and therapy isn’t a greatly accepted thing in Japan, but it’s not nonexistent. He can go to therapy and find a solution to his trauma, I doubt his trauma will go away, but something to help him cope.
About work and life part, that’s something they have to work on for their relationship. Shizuma said he’d change workplaces if it bothers Minato because of the boss’s behavior, but Minato refused and said something about not wanting to add so much burden/trauma.
He also knows it isn’t easy for Shizuma to find jobs. And it’s his dream to become a vet, he’s known since the first story. His trauma got to him here but he didn’t let it get too far, he didn’t isolate his partner from others. It was mainly his insecurity and jealousy when it came to seeing Shizuma with his boss who seems like a woman, cause before this Shizuma was straight.
I think Minato realizes he’s wrong and that’s really important for a relationship to mend. He was mad and he soon expressed it instead of continuing the silent treatment and suppressing his emotions. And when he heard Shizuma saying how scared he was that Minato said he was tired of this, Minato told him that he won’t say it again if it made him this scared.
Shizuma is a green flag and honestly one of the best tops I’ve seen. He handles some stuff amazingly such as trying to communicate and telling his boss off for disrespecting their relationship, so I don’t think Shizuma is entirely trying to please his boss. Minato is definitely lucky to have him.
Holy shit
That's what I love to be honest. That they are both trying. Relationships that lack communication and patience usually ends up in failure, if you add trauma to that it's quite the challenge, so seeing them both keeping each other grounded at times make me think how lucky they must be to have each other. I also know about the hardships when it comes to traumas; and no number of years can truly erase all the bad things, and yes it really is closer to impossible to getting theraphy in Japan. Which is quite sad. Because true enough, you just end up learning to live with it at some point.
I guess I just felt this strong feeling of wanting to see them apart, some things just become so clear when you do that. I also know it doesn't work for everyone, it could be wishful thinking on my part. Maybe I just wanted to see something that would make them both realize that this truly is what they needed to create a version of themselves that could be the push in their relationship. Like how when you fail, and you realize at the end you needed that failure to get to the you now, but maybe that's just me.
Their relationship is actually the most mature level headed relationship I've seen, it depicts how most challenges are and it's truly fascinating because you can sometimes relate. To add, I also don't want them to break up, there's just something that I cannot seem to explain that I can feel from how the story has flowed, and from the characters that makes me push for the drift apart from each other first.
He truly is a green flag. They're both lucky to have met each other. 'Cause seeing them from the start to now, you actually see the change in both of them, for the better.
I truly think my thoughts on the flow of the story so far is truly opinionated, and I really loved how you explained how you saw the story from you perspective. So I'd like to thank you for sharing your thoughts with me.
I agree with you. Because it is fiction, I close my eyes off and don't over-think, but in real life, I wouldn't bother myself with someone like Minato.
I hate the concept of I can fix him/her. Minato is emotionally tiring to deal with
I agree with you. They both need some space and time. I would say they need a break, not a a break up. Putting some distance between the two might actually help them to process their relationship problems better. You can and will realize a lot of things about yourself when you are alone.
To be clear, I am on Minato's side since he's the only one who has some self-awareness and we can actually see how he try to better himself. At least he is putting some effort to this relationship, can't say the same for Shizuma. He's a nice guy for sure, but not a good boyfriend.
I hope in the next volume they do an arc where they break up first. I really think that in their relationship, they need space. Talking about it is good and all but that's just it, they don't actually fix the problem at hand. It feels like it will still blow up somehow even if they have already opened up about their feelings toward each other. It's like it isn't enough. They need time to gather their thoughts, do what each other wants to do first, then discuss it again after some time. The plans of moving in together just seems like a ruse to cover up the issue that they're still avoiding confronting somehow. They're rushing it. They both have baggages that is still holding them back, and even with the communication, it doesn't get better, it continues to grow worse. They're like a ticking time bomb right now, and it's just sad that it might end up badly.
It's just that their relationship feels true to life. You can't always fix things as a pair/group, sometimes, you have to do it by yourself first. I do hope for better progress in their relationship soon. Can't wait *fingers crossed*
Yes! Petition for a love rival. Shizuma never learned the lesson. Let have him taste his own medicine. I'd love to see that ٩(๑❛ᴗ❛๑)۶
Literally. ML had like 5 characters fighting for him while Minato had to battle them otu one by one like he was Scott Pilgrim. Shizuma never says no to anyone who wants him either so it'll be great if he sees thing from Minato's perspective.
I agree completely!!!
me too!!!!
not scott pilgrim omfg
I kinda jumped to the mid chapter but from my pov, it feels like the uke likes the other guy more, the one he had a bathroom scene with. It just felt like the uke only saw the other guy, the one who lived with him, as someone who was going through things, and that they were the same in some aspect related to those experiences. So it was more of a bond that isn't the romantic type of like. While his feelings for the bathroom scene guy was growing into the type that he wanted him in that level of like.
It could just be me but yeah, that's what it seemed like to me.
Same idea
I very much agree, and I also like his personality better. the younger guy kinda annoyed me at times
It may have seemed like that 'cause, at first, it wad like that
But if you pay attention to little details, you'll notice how often he thought of Yoh EVEN WHILE he was with the other!
That was a big hint 'cause, usually, in stories that end with one couple, it's not like the uke looking at seme's dick would say "wow bigger than my roommate" especially if it's someone he likes X3
At least, not an uke with this personality (there are different types of course)
This is a more reserved type, if you get what I mean
Then, it's not just this, but if you go back to look at chapters in every one of those there would at least one loving thought regarding Yoh and at least one loving thought regarding the editor
And I loved that, aww TwT
As someone said in the comments, it's not often in 3p stories to have a storyline that does make sense!
They also make you understand that Yoh and the Editor do care for each otherr
Although they're not attracted to each other
The way sensei portrayed love in this manga was hauntingly beautiful. The way I am now is a mix of how the uke paints his feelings and how the seme's perspective is in the story. There was this one comment I read that explained the seme's side to this other one who in their opinion felt that the seme didn't really feel the same way as the uke, the reply of this person to that comment was it's because he didn't understand what it was really, so it took him a long time to realize that the uke was what he was searching for. I felt that comment. It's true. He had already given up so he could never see that what he wanted was actually right in front of him all along. Because some search for something their whole lives, using what they are taught or what they see as basis for how it should be, that it causes so much confusion, leading us to this feeling of 'not yet.' When in fact, it's because it is still yet to be understood. And sometimes, what we're looking for is hidden in plain sight but because of the never ending wall the uncertainty has created, we end up thinking maybe, we're never destined to find what we truly desire.
So when shuri (uke) finally admitted that even if hisato's (seme) heart wasn't for him, shuri's heart was his. I think that's when the seme understood. The distance was also the best way to help the seme connect the dots. Since he had already given up before he even met shuri, he never saw it because he had already stopped searching. So the feelings the seme had for shuri, that were growing, was never given the right name or explanation. It just felt like an obligation but was actually so much more.
I had tears when the seme finally realized. I felt so envious of his eyes. They looked so alive, as if he finally found the last piece. And the uke was so at peace, that the anxiety that ate him up every single day could finally rest, and that he could finally feel complete.
I just wished Akashi (the guy with the glasses) was given the chance to finally be at piece. I bawled when his expression showed of a mix of lonely and empty. I wished he could just pass on in piece, together with the one he felt a connection to. But I guess it also shows how it's never a good ride for everyone. That there are stories, whatever they may be, that never goes according to what we hope for.
Uwaaaah, so yeah. This is my half feels for this manga. It was beautifully drawn to. Sensei please take my heart Σ(っ°Д °;)っ
damn, how late it must have been that I spelled piece instead of peace for my feels for akashi's side story, but seriously, if sensei could make a continuation or just more back story for him, it just felt like he was envious of the purity of what shuri had, and what hisato will one day get, it's like my heart feels sooo *cries*
Thanking you so much for sharing this! I too thought the same, at first I was a bit confused but then I started really thinking about it and this is exactly how I feel. Truly, such a beautiful story.
Sorry it's 3 am for me so I can't spell at all I meant to say *Thank you
I know I ain't the only one loving the grandma in the first story, her parts may have been like one box from a page but damn the importance of her existence in the story is just yes (๑•ㅂ•)و✧
I'm bawling right now while typing all the feels I have for this manga. There are a few spoilers so please do read this very long comment after reading the manga.
Let me start of with how the artwork of sensei was magical and the story made me cry like a baby. Hahahaha. Can't wait to read your other works sensei~ GANBARO ヾ(@^▽^@)ノ
I think how I am as a person leans more towards kamisawa's character in the story. I would have also done everything he did; not tell about the strings finally connecting, hiding how I really feel, and choosing that important person's happiness over my own. His thoughts made me go, 'Same feeling Kamisawa. I understand what you mean.' When he and Arako had a talk after finding out first about Hara's string connecting, and Arako was telling him to tell Hara already, and Kamisawa told him he wouldn't and explained that when the time came that he and Hara would break up, he would feel happier knowing that Hara would still find his way to his fated partner. Kamisawa used 'when' instead of 'if,' as if he was already sure that a time would come where they would break because he didn't want to gamble with the universe if by chance the strings never attach which leaves Hara lonely. This scene was so heartbreaking but at the same time, it reminded me of how harsh fate and life truly is and that it happens. It's not just in these stories but it really does happen in real life. I don't know if it's just me who believes this but sometimes when one is extraordinarily happy, something so painful will surely come after, because happiness always has a price. (I became a downer all of a sudden there. Hahaha.)
His gift was a beautiful curse. I think that was what made me cry so much. Being able to know someone else's fate and not knowing or having his own. Always being anxious of the happiness he feels, as if kamisama was saying, 'Ahhh, you've been too happy. I think it's time I drop you again.' I literally wanted to hug him and get mad at kamisama for letting him go through such experiences. I want to tell him that he'll soon find happiness but I think that's too much of a leading statement because I'm not sure of the 'soon.' And I wouldn't want to add any more to the heavy feeling he feels. It really does a toll on how one sees things. If you read the extra chapter (you can find someone sending a link in the comment section) he cut the string for him yet somehow for me it felt like he didn't or I don't know, we never truly got to see the 'red string' itself. But that scene, I hated it somehow, I dunno, I somehow wanted to know how strong Hara's feelings were. I did understand that the string being connected made it very hard of Kamisawa and that it was what made Hara and her boss always cross paths but I think I wish it had went in a way where they did try to change fate. Like when Haru and Arako had a conversation, and Arako telling Hara that sometimes our feelings are stronger than this so-called 'fate.' I somehow wanted sensei to go with being able to let the string lose on its own, and somehow a new string replaces this. Something like that, I have other ideas but lets go with that weird one. I wanted to see how Hara can make fate go his way. Hahahaha. It's getting confusing, I know. It did end in a good way but it made me still feel sad because what if Hara was truly destined to be with his boss, and that no matter how many times Kamisawa cuts the string, it magically get reconnected again. Aghhh, I have so much what ifs and feels that I feel like my words are spiralling. This is enough for now. I think sometimes there are stories that doesn't need much more complications for it's already painful as is, and that we should strive for happiness that we want and we deserve. Hahahahahaha. So random.
I want to add so much more but this has been too long but I seriously have so much what ifs and ideas and possible shiz. Ughhhhh. This was still beautiful.
It’s alright to be passionate about things you love ^^
I had to put this on my on hold list a long time ago after a few chapters of reading when I realized that it was still ongoing because I don't want to have to feel all these emotions from possible cliffhangers but my gosh I was so shocked when I found out there was a movie. I was listening to the top anime songs on spotify awhile ago and then this beautiful song played. I had this strong connection to it, I'm not sure if I'm the only one who feels this towards certain songs but even if like my vocabulary of the language isn't at the level of perfected normal conversation yet but the moment the song played I had already fallen in love. A part of me just kinda understood the meaning basing it on the tone of his voice and the melody. The way the singer sang the words.. it just kinda clicked. I searched for the translation of the song right away after hearing it just to be sure, and goodness me to my surprise it was an ost for the movie of this manga. I squeal. Let me also just say that the voice actors were perfect. I recently watched the trailer and the voice I had imagined that would suit these characters when I was still reading the manga and the voice actors for the characters on this movie is perfection. PLUS LET ME JUST SAY THAT THE OST WAS BEAUTIFUL AS WELL AND YOU GUYS SHOULD LISTEN TO IT. IT ADDED TO THE FEELS OF THE WHOLE THINGS. HIHIHI Σ(っ°Д °;)っ
Anyways. Ughhhh. Should I start reading this again? I think it's a good idea.. right? I'll start from the very first chapter again just 'cause I need to refresh my memory with the past chapters. I won't finish this until the latest chapter in one sitting right? Ahahaha. Who am I kidding. I'm totally gonna end up finishing this in one sitting. Huhuhu. Sensei, thank you for creating this beautiful art and plot ⁄(⁄ ⁄·⁄ω⁄·⁄ ⁄)⁄
Drama is stated in one of the genre or tags on this manga. Are we getting a full on heart crushing chapters in the distant future? Readying my tears and myself for the possible heart breaking scenes, if ever it does have one. But seriously, the story is refreshing. It's nice to read something like this from time to time (●￣(ｴ)￣●)
I bet it's about the bottom getting his heart thorn or maybe a misunderstanding （￣へ￣）
my colors almost showed during the whole 31 chapters