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LOL i thought this was funny too but i thought about it and sometimes going to a professional doesnt work cuz some dont care enough & could just be doing it for the money (?),, friends genuinely want to help you and i guess it was more comfortable for the mc to seek help from a friend,, IF THAT MAKES SENSE T^T

No, I was just being funny. I also helped friends with their issues. As someone that always had the ability to understand things well by putting together and analysing various pieces of information, I was someone that people consulted a lot in private since I was a young teenager. I would often hear "You are like a real Psychologist". I always told them, that obviously I wasn't. That what I tell them from my subjective analysis could be wrong. I also told people who were seriously not okay and encouraged them to go to seek professional help. Yes, I am aware that you can have bad luck with that. But there is a reason why you have the initial 5 sessions with a therapist. It is for the therapist to get a general anamnesis of you and tell you if they think they can help you and how and what they gathered of you so far. And for you to decide if you are happy with the therapist. It can take a while sometimes until you find someone, but it is important to normalise point to counselling and that it is absolutely normal to be "picky" with who you go to to seek help for your mental health. It is one of the most significant problems a human can have, as the mind is the only one true thing we possess undoubtedly. So you have to look around until you think you found someone who you "click" with and who makes you comfortable and feel like you are in good hands. Doctors and therapists are also humans and they obviously have their own moral codes, experience, methods and personalities. So it is very normal and a totally human thing to not "vibe" well with some of those humans. Same how you cannot be friends with just anyone, you can also not feel "helped" by just anyone. It needs to be someone that "fits" you. My first (and only) therapist also told me, he thinks I am perfectly fine and that he doesn't think he can help me and that if I think I still do need help, that I should go to xy therapist as they are more skilled in matters like mine (he was a child and teen specialist and I was already 18 so he said probably a therapist for adults would be much better for me)....anyway in the end having talked for 5 sessions to an adult without being judged or ridiculed and just listened to objectively was apparently all I needed in the end anyway. For the first time someone just let me vomit all that was lurking inside me and just having talked about everything made me see things from a distance as well and realise things, feel relieved and also that someone just listened without judging was very healing. Cause I grew up in an environment were people thought they could judge every detail about me and decide things, even my feelings and thoughts for me. So anyway. Yes, talking to friends can be very helpful, more so than going to professionals, as sometimes you just need someone to listen without judging to you and being able to just let it all out for once. But the friend should not have deceived him like that, acting like he has some authority or stuff to do that and not tell him he is unskilled and not at ALL a replacement for a professional if his issues are serious and hindering him from having a functioning life.

If I remember right, he didn't plan to get help from the start


If I'm remembering wrong than your comment is more than right

Wrong then*

i definitely agree with everything youve said !! the way the whole relationship between the two started is kinda funny, a student helping a grown adult ofc seeing a professional would have been better but in the end, it all worked out & the mc is doing better [i think]

We will just imagine he is finally happy, loves himself more and more every day and can live his life totally in control of his mind and be spoiled by his boyfriend until their end....

im not against of what anything you said but, do note that not everyone has the accountability or enough financial to meet a professional trained psychologist/counsellor whatsoever, furthermore, do these people even has the courage to go to a crowded hospital, meeting the nurses and other patients. As you can see, the mc still making an effort (by buying books etc), so kudos to him. Not everyone should go straight to meet the expert. Small step must be taken first. Ask help from your closers one. I might misunderstood what you saying, but the way you put it as in solving this problem is pointless other than moneys ╮(￣▽￣)╭, which is not a bad thing, but probably the last option. Meeting the seme is a fateful miracle thing and for him being as a medical student is not the concern here, the point here is that there someone out there that can help you freely. It quite unrealistic thing but that the point of manga/fantasy. just my two cent (づ￣ ³￣)づ

in europe and many other countries, if a psychologist or psychiatrist deems that you need counselling because he suspects you have some sort of mental issue, then your therapy will be free. the first five sessions to get an anamnesis are for free and all the tests they do as well. then later as i said, if they say you have a valid reason for therapy then your health insurance will pay for the whole therapy. you may only need to pay like 5-10 bucks if a psychiatrist prescribes a medicine that is expensive and not fully covered and requires the patient to cover only a minimum of the total cost. only if the anamnesis shows no real issue to present to your health insurance as a reason and you just want to go to have someone you can talk to freely in a safe environment or something, then you have to pay as a private patient. and yes, courage is a part of it, which is why i mentioned that someone like a medical student should know that it is perfectly normal to acquire the services of professionals and encourage someone who "thinks they should may be get professional help" to really go and do it. he could also have gone with him as well as a moral support. sure talking to close ones is amazing for us social beings, but are they close? he was a stranger who just triggered his insecurity and hugged him and suggested a deal "cause he has a seminar on psychosomatics and wants to use his case for his university housework" so what are you getting at? sure i know this is manga...which is why i mentioned in all my comments "just being funny, just adding my salt".....just to kind of lightly add and remind people who may read this, that it is perfectly normal to seek help from professionals if you are feeling helpless and that people who have someone around that seems they could need a helping hand or some encouragement, to tell lend them an ear and encourage them to go to seek professional help....anyway....hhh i wrote so much again, but yeah