One minute I am laughing my fool head off and just five minutes later I'm crying like I just watched my dog die! That's some bullshit! Talk about having the rug pulled out from under you.
Less than a year later, here I am, laughing one minute and bawling like a toddler with a skinned knee the next. Honestly, most of the stories were so terribly sad and heart-wrenching. Yet, the story with the girly-bear was just hilarious. I guess a little comic relief was needed so this didn't become a suicide inducing manga.
Perhaps it is because my sons were a lot like the uke. Very intelligent, very mature and wise far beyond their years. Your age is just the number of years you've been alive. What determines your maturity is what you've experienced in those years. You could be 40 and lived a sheltered life or 14 and lived through many trials and hardships. There is only one easy way to determine what age a person becomes an "adult" and that is by assuming that by the time they have had 18 or 20 birthdays, they will have accumulated enough experience to be responsible for their own actions and choices. Unfortunately, assuming anything is never a wise strategy. It eliminates possibilities. Like the possibility that a 14 year old can handle a sexual relationship or that a 40 year old can't. In this story, I don't feel that the adult did anything untoward. He encouraged his younger partner to improve his grades and even took great pains to take their intimate relationship slow. There was no manipulation, deceit or abuses on the part of the adult. If anything, the younger partner set the pace of the relationship and the adult had more to lose than to gain from allowing the relationship. Though I do believe that laws are necessary to protect children from predators, I don't believe that every adult/minor relationship falls into the category of predator/prey. When it comes to interpersonal and intimate relationships, there are too many grey areas for laws governing them to be effective. This is why each case should be considered individually on its own merits and flaws, rather than blanket statements being made.
I've never had a shota fetish when reading yaoi, but at the same time, shota doesn't bother me either. To me, it is fiction and erotic fiction to boot. It is meant to arouse and entertain. If it doesn't arouse me, it should at least entertain me. For the most part, that has been exactly the case. This manga, however, not only entertained me, it spurred me to think and consider the thought processes of an intelligent and wise 14 year old by and his adult lover. All in all, I got more out of the story than I expected. Thus, I can't complain about it.
The idea that love is not something you can force and it should never be suffocating, is both beautiful and true. I'd have enjoyed an extra where Izumi was flourishing in the love that the seme showed him. The mother's love, the aunt's love, even the four eyes' love, were all dark, twisted and possessive to the point of suffocation. These are people who are not in love with the other person, but rather in love with the power they feel from manipulating the hearts of others. They don't fear losing the other person as much as they fear the loss of control over them. All humans feel possessiveness, greed and jealousy because they are emotions tied to our survival instincts. We will always want our lover to only hold us dear or be the only one in our lover's heart and eyes. However, truly loving someone means we also desire to see them grow, succeed and flourish in the world. If there is no balance between fulfilling our desires to possess them and fulfilling our desire to see them grow and flourish, then the love we feel is a selfish love and selfish love is unhealthy. Of all the characters, I think only the uncle was purest in his familial love for Izumi. Unfortunately, Izumi was following the example of his mother and aunt and forcing his own love onto his uncle. I think Izumi recognized this, and wanted to stop. The aunt was a bit of a bitch, but at least she woke up to how wrong her behaviour was and let Izumi go. Izumi's relationship with the four eyes was unhealthy from the start. Four eyes wanted a puppet to control, not a lover.
I love deep manga like this. They give the reader something to contemplate and that is a nice change of pace at times.
I'm not a big fan of omegaverse, but I just adore this manga. For me, omegaverse is steeped in overtones of homophobia and classism, things I see enough of in real life to not want to see it in my escapist hobby of manga reading. However, this manga is so filled to the brim with such tender and heartwarming feelings that any of those overtones that seep in are quickly dispelled and overwritten. I often forget that this is an omegaverse themed story. It's as if this story takes place in a universe I wouldn't mind living in. Something I can't say for most other omegaverse themed manga. I always feel like this is the kind of life I wish my friends who are homosexual could experience, with children of their own and strong, loving family ties. Though most of my friends have found their own happiness in their own way, we have spoken about having children and families on occasion and a feeling of melancholy seems to drift between us. I've only ever wished happiness for my friends, whatever that may be, but if I could have one special wish granted it would be that those friends who wish for it could experience the same joys I have as a parent. Each time I read and reread this manga, I think fondly of them. I don't think there is another manga that has touched me quite the way this one has.
Everyone assumes that the sadist runs the show in S&M, when in fact, the opposite is true. The masochist LIKES the pain, humiliation and torture. So, they are the one receiving pleasure when the sadist lashes out. When a masochist willingly gives up "power" to the sadist, they gain control over the dynamic. You can't control what others think, say or do, but you can control how you react and let it affect you. A masochist has mastered controlling their responses to pain and humiliation by finding pleasure in it. The more a sadist lashes out, the more pleasure the masochist receives. The more the masochist defies or infuriates the sadist, the more the sadist lashes out. Thus, the masochist is the one calling the shots. Being called a masochist should never be an insult. It takes a high level of self awareness, self control, self sacrifice and observational skills to be a masochist who gets what they want.
I like what your wrote.
Most of the times i considered being called 'masochist' was an affront, however, reading you, i gladly find some kind of praise of being one of them. And it's true.
I'm glad I could uplift a fellow masochist. I've been involved in BDSM for 30 years and I've been a masochist and a submissive the whole time. I don't need power if I have control. We only LOOK pathetic to those who don't understand how powerful and in control we actually are. Never be ashamed of finding pleasure as a masochist. There are people out there who understand and admire your bravery, tenacity, self control and awareness. When you find a loving sadist, if you haven't already, I wish you both much happiness. There is nothing like having a lover who understands you and wants nothing more than to please you and be pleasured by you. Best wishes and best of luck to you. Keep your chin up!
Oh, you exhilarate me with your words again. I'm not involved in BDSM ..yet. This is the way i've been since a long time ago, but, since we are seen as pathetic i began to play rude and rebel. So, i won't look 'weak' before others. I have a funny combination of myself now.
Yeah, being aware of everything and knowing how to deal with it. Requires more effort itself. Like making the plans of a structure, a building. So our partner will execute it.
As a result, when having a partner who complements us very well, that bond becomes even more special.
Thank you for your best wishes. I haven't find someone like that yet. I hope the situation changes sooner than the later. Thank you again.
Ah, like me, you would be considered a "brat" in our circles. This is a masochist who is dilberately rebellious in order to bring out the best in their sadist. Of course, not many sadist's enjoy a partner who is constantly submissive. Without punishment, there can be no reward. LOL
Everyone has a little sadist in them. When you find "the one", even if they are not into BDSM, if you start off slow and gentle, It's easy to pull someone into the "dark side". LOL I was initiated and trained at 17 by a wonderful guy. He was so patient and gentle, there was just no way I could not enjoy every minute of everything he did with me. We started out gently with tying my hands with beautiful silk scarves he bought just for me. He then started to blindfold me with them as well. That is an intense experience! I loved It! Little games like that can be enough to start or enough to just spice up your love life. As time went on, we evolved together into more intense and rougher games. Even after we broke up, we remained good friends and partners on occasion. We never cheated on our partners, we would only play if we both were single. We broke up because I was young, stupid and indecisive. If I had been smarter, I'd have married him. He really was perfect. Ah, but that was almost 30 years ago! LOL Too late now. I am grateful to him though. He brought out the best in me.
Your "building" analogy is perfect. That is precisely what we do and we must trust our partner to execute that plan perfectly. Trust is huge in BDSM. You are entrusting your life and safety to another's hands. Anyone can have "vanilla" sex, but it takes a much deeper level of trust to play BDSM games, both physically and emotionally. You have to be extremely confident in yourself and your partner to enjoy humiliation games, exhibitionism, neglect play and rape play. You have to KNOW for certain that your partner will never hurt you and you have to KNOW for certain that you can take everything your partner dishes out. That is not something you find in most average relationships. The rate of divorce among married BDSM couples is nearly zero. It is a trust and confidence you can't find anywhere else.
I sincerely hope that you can find your perfect sadist. They are out there, even if you have to train them to be perfect. LOL Good luck to you and if you ever need or want to chat, feel free to mail me here. I'd love to talk with you.
Oh, geez. Being called "brat" ...what a loving word!! Enticing a sadist with a rebellious behavior is amusing and gives this grin on your face of evil complacence willing for a proper punishment as a reward.
What i read before, is that every sadist has a masochist side, as well for masochist to have a sadist inner self. Being all cute and nice to drag someone to the 'dark side', i love it since immemorial times. Nice, so nice..
You were young when you began, your initial games seem lovely and perfect for me. It's natural for you to behave foolish and hesitant at a young age, if he was with you back then, he was also aware of this. Do you still miss him?
Hehe, thanks for praising my analogy, i like to come with examples like that, since i lack of knowing how to convey my thoughts.
Exactly, what i see in BDSM, and appreciate the most, is the meaning of trust. It's like putting your live in someone else's hands and that one to embrace it with so much care. This cannot be compared to vanilla sex. Or, even to the regular relationships some couples have out there.
Wow, you just mentioned the kinks i have, from humiliation till rape play, hahaha. Back at the time i didn't have even the slightless idea of these, i was into them but with some fear.
THAAAAANK you!! for telling me i'm able to mail you, i'm so happy!! I'l do!!
Reply me there!!
I am extremely happy to meet a fellow masochist with similar interests. My former boyfriend and I are still in contact, but we are only friends now. We are both happily married to other people and we take joy in knowing the other is happy and content. I will admit that I do miss him though. Especially when I reminisce about our past adventures together. LOL
I look forward to talking to you more in mail. I'll see you there!
wooow I've never thought about it that way! I´ve read so many stories about masochists but I never thought further. That is so true! It takes some real balls, confidence and power to be honest about what you want. thanks for the insight
Everything from the first frame to the last was awesome. I LOL'd many times. I still have a big grin on my face as I write this. The techniques and the grandma were my favorite parts.
It felt like all these stories were desperately trying to be deep and meaningful, but they just ended up confusing and forgettable.
yeah bc it's a fucking 1 shot lol ╮(￣▽￣)╭
Even without much sex, this manga is awesome. The realism of the mother's fucked up reaction is so "on the nose" it's a little scary and the feelings of a young person dealing with figuring out who they are and how they fit into a world that doesn't know how to accept them is both heart wrenching and beautifully portrayed. Kei's strength was hard for him to maintain alone. So, he looked to Megumu and found a friend, someone to support him as a gay man and a lover all rolled into one. I'd love to see more from this mangaka featuring this couple. There are so many avenues and issues that could be explored with a beginning as wonderful and as realistic as this. There are some mangaka who exploit the LGBT community by creating ONLY homosexual fantasy type manga that portray nothing of the reality of homosexuality. That's not necessarily a BAD thing. However, for me, the mangaka who can not only profit from their works about homosexuality but also provide support to and enlightenment about the LGBT community and life are much more admirable. This mangaka, with this manga, has proven themselves to be quite admirable to me. This story had more of a "this is what it's like for young gay men" vibe than a "homosexualy fantasy story" vibe and I like that very much. I love a good fantasy, don't misunderstand, but sometimes a story like this is needed too.
http://www.mangago.zone/read-manga/boku_to_neko_to_hatsukoi_kousa/mf/c004/32/
I LOVE it! What a fucking cunt she was! OMG! I hate pushy bitches like her. The sense of entitlement is nauseating. Like she is entitled to have anyone she chooses because she has a vagina. Her parents didn't tell her "no" often enough and they lied to her when they told her she could have or do anything she wanted. This bitch is the poster girl for "Entitled Dickery".
Hey now, no need to hate so much on her. I agree that she was a bit too pushy, but she's in love. The fact that she can't give up on him after he's told her 'no' doesn't automatically make her a slut or bitch. Besides telling him he could crawl back to her, she didn't do anything. Please be a bit more respectful towards people.
You're right, it makes her a stalker, psycho cunt. My bad. I don't care what your excuse is, if you can't take no for a fucking answer, you deserve an ass beating and to go to jail. I have dealt with too many stupid whores who couldn't grasp the concept of the word no or the phrase "I don't even like you." Love is not an excuse to meddle in or destroy someone's life. In fact, if they really loved someone besides themselves, they would let go and allow the person they love to be happy. They don't do that though. They aren't in love, they are being selfish, spoiled rotten, little cunts. Plain and simple. So, before you admonish me, ask yourself why you're so protective of people like this selfish, little psycho stalker. Does she remind you of yourself? If so, you better get professional help now, because you are mentally unstable and unhealthy.
Okay, no need to insult me. All I'm saying is that maybe you should try to say your opinion in normal words and leave out the swearing. Although that would probably result in leaving out your whole 'opinion'. Look, I'm not trying to say that what she did is perfectly fine. It's not. I'm so sorry I don't share your, obviously, very passionate opinion on this
Oh for fucking fucks sake, you fucking pussy. Grow the fuck up! They are WORDS they have only the value you apply to them. Personally, the intent and meaning is more importsnt than the words used to express it. You are so hung up on a few random words that you miss the entire point of what people are saying. Get over yourself. This is how I speak. Don't like it, go fuck your hat. You don't feed me, employ me, clothe me, keep me warm, keep a roof over my head or fuck me and I didn't give birth to you. This means your view and opinion of me means less to me than the toilet paper I wiped my ass with this morning.
And I didn't insult you before. I gave you genuine, sincere advice. The insult came later.
Wow what a crazy overreaction to a reply!!! Are you ok Mameiha? I'm asking sincerely
Okay, I'd like to apologize if I insulted you in any way, seriously. I understand where you're coming from, I just didn't agree with the wording. And you're right. I don't feed you, employ you, clothe you, keep you warm, keep a roof over your head or fuck you and no, you didn't give birth to me. I have no right to tell you what to say or what to do and I'm sorry if you felt like I was pushing my opinion on you, I just wanted to let you know. Next time, I promise I'll just keep my mouth shut. (Like always)
Dude chill.... that person was giving his opinion as well as you.... why you gotta react so over the top... I agree with him she wasn't that bad compared to other girls who actually try to tear them apart she just said that cuz she likes him and can't give up but I believe that after.... "I give way better head" ⁄(⁄ ⁄·⁄ω⁄·⁄ ⁄)⁄ line we good.....
For you, fair enough - though I am a woman. I react to little children who couldn't find their ass with both hands and a map any way I deem appropriate, thank you. My OC was a fucking JOKE! A silly smart ass comment meant to elicit a laugh. Don't get it? Not my problem. Don't like it? Still not my problem. But I'll be damned if I'm going to take a lecture from a child who can't understand a joke. Fuck that noise.
I liked it, but not until about ten minutes after I finished it and had had a chance to work through all the confusing parts.
SPOILER ALERT>>>>>>>>>>
Seme sleeps with dad, not son. whew! Uke is not dead, just a stupid April fools prank. Another whew! I read this after reading two other manga by this mangaka that really kicked your teeth in with the tragedy, so I was really buying the dead uke. I'm glad it was a prank.
She does tragedy well.
Yes, she does!
How are you feeling? I've been away for a few weeks... need a break from here every now and again. LOL
Understood! Lol! I'm okay. Still waiting for an official confirmation of a surgery date, and my body is fighting an infection, but I haven't rotted yet! How are you!?
I'm as good as I'm going to get at my age. LOL Is your infection from the original reason they postponed your surgery? I'm not going to try and sound like a meddling old aunt and give you all kinds of unnecessary advice, but I will ask that you keep your spirits up. Feeling good and having a genuine smile on your face goes a long way to help you be healthy. So, do at least one thing you really enjoy everyday, okay? We have had some bad winter storms here and my husband is a tow truck operator. He has been working day and night for weeks. That is why I was away. I can't settle down or be relaxed when he works like that. His work is not difficult, but it can be dangerous. Maybe I worry too much. LOL Honestly, I came back hoping to hear from you. I've been worried about you too. Actually, it was less worry and more hopeful that you had had your surgery and were doing great. I'm sorry that it has still been delayed. My phone shit the bed, but if you have Facebook messenger we could chat there if it is easier for you. I will shoot you a mail and give you the details of how to reach me. I, personally, hate Facebook in general, but the messenger app is handy and I use it all the time. LOL
That works beautifully! My body likes to hijack me, but I have new doctors that I'm not used to yet, so the whole wait and see process is making my prickliness even more prickly, and my saltiness even saltier! I look forward to talking with you more. ♡
Ah, new docs are tough. Trust takes time. Well, feel free to complain to me whenever you need to until you feel safe and comfortable with them. LOL My body has been hijacking me for the past 20+ years. I have fibromyalgia and since they don't know what causes it, curing it is hit or miss. I was addicted to painkillers for 7 years until I just couldn't take it anymore. That was 4 years ago. Now, I take Kratom - it is powdered leaf from the mitriganya speciosa plant ( my spelling is probably wrong) which is a member of the coffee family. It works amazingly well on the pain and doesn't leave me feeling doped up and fuzzy brained. I also meditate and that helps when the pain is really low. I usually say that I have two kinds of pain. Bad days and days I want to die. I haven't had a day where I want to die since I started taking Kratom. So, you could say I'm a big proponent of it. LOL On bad days ( my usual days) I just feel like I have flu body aches. Twenty years of having flu body aches combined with days where I feel like I was hit by a train loaded with full-size, lead elephants will make anyone exhausted and just a bit salty. LOL I try to face it with a smile though, but there are days where my smile looks more like a grimace. Reading is part of my meditation. I've always loved to read and it takes my mind off of the pain. When I am reading, I can forget, even for a few minutes, that every nerve in my body is crying out in pain. What irks me is that there is nothing really "wrong" with me - no injuries or illness - just nerves that misfire and/or get misread by my brain. I have a very high pain threshold. So, I can only imagine what this would feel like to anyone else. That is how I keep perspective. "It could be worse." LOL
I'll read anything set in front of me. As a kid, I read our entire dictionary - it was one of those 4 volume kind with words no one uses anymore (lol) - and our entire encyclopedia set. Gosh, I was a sad and lonely kid! LMAO I was diagnosed with dyslexia in first grade and my teacher at the time was amazing. She taught me tricks to make reading easier and ways to recognize the correct words by their shape and context clues. I did well enough to learn how to speed read even though I had dyslexia! I'm the type that would rather read the book than watch the movie. My version is always better anyway! LOL I'll read from any genre too - outside of manga, that is. Romance, horror, mystery, sci-fi, thriller, military, fantasy, historical, biography, fiction or non-fiction. I'm also fascinated by history. Historical fiction or historical biographies and accounts would probably be a favorite. Though, I can't honestly say I have a set favorite genre. I go through phases. I'll gorge on one genre for a while and then switch to something entirely different. I've even read Twilight, so I am not picky about whether it is well written either! LMAO I'm sure we will have a few books in common that we have read and can discuss.
You're talking my language! Me too.
I'm a voracious reader. Not much I won't read. Dictionaries., encyclopedias, TV Guide, anything will do! Lately, I'm obsessed with stories about AI, androids, humanoids, dolls. I've read some really weird, interesting stuff. The last thing I read that I loved was this weird story of a man who buys a human /black leopard as a companion at a black market auction. The leopard was named Amor and the guy was named Liebe. Interesting premise, fascinating execution but as typical, tons of smut.
Okay, love. ..Gotta go rest my brain. ♡♡
I read that too! Loved It! Go get some sleep. I'll message you tomorrow. Big hugs!
Sounds good! Sleep well yourself! ♡