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Also cried when the wrestler and gamer met up again too... It was so heartwarming when he froze upon seeing him and how he was carried to the recovery room. ヾ(☆▽☆)

'Wrecking ball' is right...

I've seen a couple of guys IRL that precum a lot. Usually younger guys or virgins..... those were the days.

Holy shit, this is a real life thing? That's kinda hot (~×_×)~ I mean, i knew precum was real, i just assumed it was only found in large amounts in yaoi land.

Yaoi land greatly scews the amount. A lot for a real life guy may be a quarter size mark on his pants. Sorry if I lead you astray.

Meh, still hawt.

Many penis owners don't even have precum though (especially if they're circumcised)

"penis owners" xD men? Yeah, i've never ran into a guy who precums either so i know it isn't super common.

As they mentioned before it usually seems to happen to men who aren't used to it like teenage boys and virgins. It fits with this character since he was a virgin before... a certain scene.

He just precame in the most recent chapter though, you know, after they had sex and what-not.

Not a teenager either.

Well some men don't have a penis and some penis owners aren't men so ;)

XD

That isn't correct, what makes you a male biologically is having a penis.

What about a horrible accident that chops it off. It's the y chromosome biologically. Or if you're a male in your heart.

Insert pink hearts and smiles.

Even in the case that a horrible accident occurs that results in your crotch being chopped off, it doesn't change the fact that your body is physically made with all that there. That's like saying you're no longer human if you lose an arm. Your biology includes a penis/testicles then you're a male. As far as being a male in your heart, i have no problems using your pronouns if it'll make you happy, but i'll consider you female till you get the operation because you are physically female.

You have it right, what i'm saying is that i would consider their body female and their character male. As far as you saying "it shouldn't matter unless the body is mine", it doesn't matter to me until that person comes into my bubble and tries to alter my perception of them. "hey, i realize that you've grown up understanding basic biology and so you view me as female, but i'm actually a male because my feelings adjust physical matter so i want you to call me male". If you ask this of me then it becomes my concern because YOU are involving me. It's really not a big deal to me, as i said, i'll call you what you want to avoid being an asshole. That bit about your body expressing your brain is just a convenient spin you like to apply, each piece of our body is the way it is because we evolved in this way to survive, if what you said was true then there wouldn't be any trans people because their body would adapt to their gender identity...

Yeah, no problem. : D Nice talking with you.

I just realized that there was more to your message than "thanks for the conversation!" : D I somehow didn't see the little plus symbol that shows the rest of the message... As far as whether or not i would be willing to alter my perception for a trans person who came out to me, no problem, i've actually already done that for my friend Louis (trans male, pre-op). I have no issues with altering my perception of individual people who're willing to talk and explain their situation and don't get rude with me, i just don't feel like i need to cater to people i don't know so if they get rude i don't believe they have any grounds to be angry on since i dont know them. As for you saying that "mental gender corresponds with bodily sex", i don't personally agree, if you believe that then where does it stop? Following that line of thought you could argue that something "went horribly wrong" in people who're gay/lesbian because their bodily sex is -insert sex- and yet they're attracted to the same sex, you'd even be arguing that they're gay/lesbian because they're a man or woman because "bodily sex is linked to what 'went horribly wrong' since, because they're -insert sex- they're supposed to be set to a certain setting and yet they aren't". Being gay/lesbian has already been proven scientifically to be attributed to environmental exposure and nurture, if what "went horribly wrong" in gay/lesbian people is already explained it's only a matter of time before we have the scientific details behind the "trans mindset".

You're right, you said "something went wrong" (by the way, my quotes are just there to reference things that you've said, they aren't indicitive of sarcasm or anger on my part, just wanted to clear up and misunderstandings), that was a mistake on my end. I realize that you never drew the comparison between "going wrong" and sexuality, i wasn't trying to say you did, the entire point of what i was saying there is that the line of thought you proposed is very generalized and could be applied to situations aside from being transgender. You were saying that their bodily sex is one thing and that since they don't associate themselves with the characteristics that make up that one thing something might've "went wrong", when you proposed this idea i responded with "well where does it stop?" because it is just a little too generalized. I went on to explain that sexuality has been attributed to environmental exposure to show you why making a generalization like that might not work in every case, the idea you proposed could be applied to sexuality, but since sexuality has already been explained in a way aside from what you were saying, it makes the idea invalid. TLDR, i was saying the idea is too generalized and could cover quite a few situations under the umbrella of it's ideology that have already been explained.

Absolutely not. Biological sec and gender identity are both very complex and it's definitely not just about having a penis.

I'm sorry but you ARE an asshole because a person's physical attributes is no concern of yours and shouldn't affect how you perceive people.
Also it's 2017 and science says gender/sex is not binary or determined by just genitals or chromosomes. Science was built around the assumption that it is but it's a social construct, not a fact.
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I believe i've already stated that a person's physical attributes are of no concern to me until they get in my bubble and try to alter my perception of them? You're the exact kind of rude person i was talking about that gets overly emotional and tries to shove their ideology down my throat... I already said that if a person will come forward and just talk with me to explain their situation rather than just expecting me to cater to them and getting offended when i don't despite not knowing them that i'd be willing to alter my perception of individuals. Also, what science? I can tell you dont know what you're talking about from the way you said "gender/sex", the two aren't the same and sex is 100% assigned by genitals and chromosomes. The idea that gender is non-binary is debatable. I guess i'll humor you, give me a link to this "science" you read.

In my experiences, precuming like that when very aroused is very common for young men. I don't remember a single guy that didn't do that from just a heavy make-out session and some exploratory searches when I was a teenager.

i cant say this makes me want to punch something but its definitely interesting an i want to read more!

You and me both~

I would never tell a child if you don't do this or that I'm going to leave you. I'm the oldest so I always tell my little siblings no tv, toys, games, electronics, or deserts but never tell them I'm going to leave especially if I'm the only 1 they can count on as a loving parent. A child should never have to feel alone. What the father did was wrong. That child only has him and the thought of being alone had to be scary for him. Even if the other guy was there the child does not know him well enough. Sorry if I sound defensive towards the dad's character, I know how it feels to be alone even though my mother and step father were physically there just not emotionally.

It really seems like you're making the same judgement as the uke here and the connection between you two seems to be the past you base the opinion on. Personally, i think you're projecting in the same way he was, sure the child feels negative emotions towards what is happening, but that is the point in discipline. The thing is, there was never any chance of him actually leaving so i don't see what he did as wrong. Can i ask, what would you prefer he do? Smack his hand? That'd give the boy negative feelings as well. Put him in the corner? Do you see my point? Regardless of the discipline method the individual is still left with negative emotions, namely a sense of betrayal. You think kids don't feel alone when they're spanked? Or put in the corner? For a brief period the child will feel alone, in other words betrayed, regardless of what method you use. Saying you'll leave spares them physical pain from a spank and building irritation from having to stand in place for several minutes. It's a quick and, in my opinion, less painful method.

If you read my comment I listed the ways I disciplined my younger siblings and none of what I listed suggests that children be punished physically. The father did do wrong by saying he would leave the child even though that's the only person that child shares a close emotional bond with. He child only knew the uke for a limited amount of time. Your not understanding the psychological damage that feeling has on the child that even effects to his or her adult life. Feeling pain, lonely and scared vs feeling sad that his or her things got taken away is not the same. You can clearly see how frightened the child was because he only has his father. We don't even know where his mother is? We each have our own opinions on how we would raise kids. Based on the circumstances spanking can be good or bad so I'm not judging you but it can have adverse effects that scars the child for life.

I didn't just mention physical abuse, i also mentioned the sense of betrayal felt regardless of the method used. Children often tell their parents that they hate them during theses times, i believe they actually mean it in those moments. I'm saying that all methods are equally impactful to children in those moments. You taking things away from them made them hate you briefly which would in extention make them not want you in that same instant. It's the same loneliness, they feel like you've betrayed them and that you're no longer "in their corner". Children don't feel as complex feelings as adults, they feel strong ones. This is where i think you're projecting.

As long as it's not emotionally or physically scarring we grow up getting over it. Some people don't deserve to be parents. Whether its the surounding or living environment children are more perceptive to everything leaving them open to anything because they lack the knowledge and experiences. Hate is a strong emotion, I highly doubt children know the consequences that emotion can have on them as wells as others. Not knowing how cruel the world can be are the times I miss the most

Well that is the thing though, isn't it? "As long as it isn't emotionally or physically scarring", there is a difference between what happened to you and the child in this manga. You were neglected, you were scarred because you were neglected, not disciplined. The boy was disciplined. His father has always been there for him giving him support. He felt his father's love as reassurance after the negative experience, you didn't. Two separate things, but you relate on a certain level and it makes you protective.

you have it all wrong, my childhood is a pandoras box that even I am not allowed to open. Its closed off with locks apon locks apon locks. You cannot fully analyz someone's life with just a few words but I'm glad your trying to understand my point of view as I am yours ╮(￣▽￣)╭

I mean... I don't like what the father did. I don't agree with it. But I can understand the idea of "If you don't blah blah blah Then I will Blah Blah BLah" its an efficient way to instil good behaviour. I guess I just think that in situation that are of bigger importance that kind of disciplinary threat works. But in this case, the issue was: The kid didn't want tomatoes. The solution: The father threatened to abandon the kid. As someone living in Japan, the land of harsh punishments and strict disciplinary parents, I think the reaction was too much. A simple "no tomatoes = no ice cream" Would have worked just as fine. I have a bit of a bias though. As a kid I was always pretty obedient so I don't actually have any memories of that kind of punishment. The only time I remember is when I got caught drinking then self harming in the same day and my mom threatened to send me back to this school i used to go too. The school isn't like a boarding school or anything. It was just super toxic for me and caused several panic attacks. But yeah. In summary, the situation and the general behaviour of the child should dictate the scale one goes to for discipline. ヾ(❀╹◡╹)ﾉ~

I totally agree thats what I also said. I had a panic attack before I couldn't think or breath 1 of the worst feelings I've ever had. I also changed schools which was a lot healthier

Ah well lot of things depend on how your child is , every child is different the way they react to thing are different too some are very sensitive towards thing some don't give it much thoughts and some get scared and and obey what parents said and after that everything got better,in child cases we can relate very little from children as when we were children not much because it can be possible that they are different from us and what things work on them might be different from them too . parents handle their children what works for their children as nlit can also not be said for all parents they can make mistakes too .but in the end what matter the most is how much you love your child and how much you can atone for that mistake.now in this cases what he did with his child was a disciplinary tactic that work for his child .he did knew his child don't eat tomoto he asked him first to eat it and also yesterday the day too when they were eating. But in the end the thing work out for them here,the child thought was more like if I will eat tomato my daddy will come back and it will be all good ,the afraidNess of abondenship would have worked if his father would not have came back but that was not the case because his father loved him and it was just an act. My mother used to black mail all the time for things most of the parents do accordingly to what work for their children .chances for the child to feel distrust are in everywhere tbh .even if the parents are alert enough.but the thing in the end is it should be parents in the end who know how to treat their child,in his act he did in the end gave his child the trust that daddy will be together and he is not going anywhere as we can see he came back. a child can not feel distrust here .

He did threaten no ice cream, the boy said no. Threatening to leave was his last resort.

I don't know your past other than that your "parents weren't there for you", i'm going off of what you told me and of course i can't go into detail about it. If it sounded like i was marginalizing the pain you experienced, then that is just how you took what i said, it isn't what i was intending. What i was trying to point out is that you had it worse than the boy, way worse from how you describe it, and i think this effects how you view punishment on a scale. Or rather that you don't view punishment as punishment so much as abuse.

I agree with this as well, "parents use the disciplinary method they know works best on their child" and "he knew the boy would eat the tomatoes while he was gone he had tried other methods such as just asking him to eat them, threatening to not give him ice cream and finally deciding to threaten to leave." are all points i've been trying to make. There were no bad intentions behind the act and he dotes on the boy enough that the child wouldn't have the jaded outlook on life that blu has that would make him think he'll never see his father again. His thoughts were, as you said, "if i eat these tomatoes he'll come back", which is how the father knew it would be. Another thing, he never said he was just going to leave him, he said if he doesn't eat the tomatoes he will. This is important wording being skipped over as it show the father planting the idea of "if i eat the tomatoes" in his son's mind. It was all according to plan.

No hard feelings towards you its all good I think the word punishment can be interpreted in more ways than 1 depending on where your from. Punishment in the U.S has a different meaning than from a different country where Its viewed as to cause harm. My younger sibs had a much happier childhood because as our parents got older they learned better parenting. Now I'm going to read some yaoi to heal, all this discussion on punishment makes my stomach hurt unless it's the kind related to 50 shades of gray(▰˘◡˘▰)...

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Okay, have fun. (⌒▽⌒)

ヾ(❀╹◡╹)ﾉ~

If you read it again you'll see that he said no tomatoes = no this and that till he got to no ice cream and the kid threw a tantrum /screamed so saying i won't come back till u eat your tomatoes was the last resort. Also he said i won't come back not i'll go home and leave you here.

Except that I think Yeon Ho already knows that. He seemed to have understood that in the most recent chapter anyway. If Jae Ha also understands this then he will arrange to meet Yeon Ho at 1100 in front of the school in the future even though HIS Yeon Ho won't understand why. So even if MC Yeon Ho doesn't meet him there, there is still the possibility that he might have met him in another timeline.

*He might have met him there in THAT OTHER timeline (which might be enough to make THIS Yeon Ho happy).

I didn't see that in the latest chapter, it has always seemed to me like he is trying to change his OWN reality, he even wen't to resolve his personal issues so that when they met it'd be a clean slate. If he's trying to set up a meeting with his alternate self then why is he working on himself for their meeting?

Went*