
the convo about marriage hit different to ethnic kids with traditional parents huh

OH MAH GAW
Filial piety is a real thing, y'all. I live in the States with traditional Asian parents and filial piety is still goin' strong, even here. It is difficult. The automatic expectations are to get married, have kids, provide for the family, then take care of your aging parents. Yes, this sounds amazing and idealistic. But what if I don't want to get married? Or have kids? Well, because of filial piety, the choice doesn't even seem like an option. Of course you have an option but these expectations that are taught to us by elders don't break easily. It goes beyond the comments like "oh, I can't wait to see my grandkids" or "I'm just thinking about seeing you walk down the aisle". Sometimes, filial piety is made to feel natural and it becomes so engrained into us that we feel shame for not upholding the respect our elders and family should get. Wr may often think that it is our failure as children.
Lol, I didn't mean to write an essay but this chapter hit me hard. I'm straight and I am privileged as a straight cisgendered woman; thus, many times when I read BL or GL, I understand that I can never truly understand the plights of the LGBTQ community, despite being an ally. However as an Asian woman and a woman who does not necessarily want to get married or have kids (I'm cool if it happens but I'm not super interested in it), filial piety is a topic I struggle with a lot. Lol, thanks for reading and have a good day.

So true! it's the same in the arab world. My family is considered a little more open than other families and even they do have some expectation to how you live. marriage and work. people tend here to pressure to live in some type that goes well with the socity around them, they don't even notice how they pressure their own kids. especially girls. I think people to understand the people can lives in different styles and give freedom to how each one wants to live

honestly I originally thought the side story was suppose to demonstrate a healthy relation in opposed to the main one, and that's why it was favored more by the readers!!! like it was supposed to break the negative stigmas of bdsm and demonstrate healthy sex and consent but now i'm afraid MD is turning into a toxic character :(((((

I know he does but this type of emotional manipulation is not it. Chanwoo will not say the safe word bc he's too prideful, but this isn't the right method to go about it either. MD shouldn't allow his emotions to influence what is supposed to be a professional bdsm relationship. He's being petty bc he's hurt he got rejected and that is NOT justification for him to get revenge on Chanwoo.

He wants him to say the safe word because he is frustrated that Chanwoo is too careless of his own well being. He doesn't understand why Chanwoo chooses to date shitty guys and doesnt put a stop to them even if it kills him. But the way he went about it is not cute at all nor healthy, nor justifiable for his actions. But people seem to forget that because its "bdsm". When it really isnt. This has become something outside of their professional agreement.

I dont think its revenge, more like a lecture? But I do agree with u. Its going to go into an unhealthy relationship and he overdo it. I just want Chanwoo to scream the save word and say smth like: Here u go with ur old sub, dont care about me anymore and leave me alone. But thats what MD is aiming for and this is just making me unsatisfied too... I want MD to suffer more xD I Hope it wont go like: Chanwoo screaming save word -> leave him -> after weeks finding out he miss him and loves him -> come back to him.

In regards to the alleged Djun rumor saying only 1 of them will not become a couple, guys, what if she meant the girl and that one boy? I mean it would make the most sense. Although no one really has had a source for it, I really hope it's not the pinky boy and glasses boy :(

Uwahhh! I want them all to end up together! I hope it's not true, if it is, it is more likely the pink dude and Huanwen (altho i really like them) since there's no progress on them both yet compared to the boy & girl and the old dude & red hair..... But maybe, he means that they might not be a couple yet on the story but both have mutual feelings and it would just leave to our imagination if they would be dating or not.....*cross fingers*

Bruh when he gave the glasses neighbor a handjob I was like.... are you serious.... I mean I understand Momo has a warped perception of love but I wouldn’t brush that off bruh thats cheating ??_??

Well yeah lol but remember that momo's entire life was engulfed in sexual activities so personally I'm not surprised he considers a hand job something trivial. He didn't even value his own body. Momo's lover (whose name I already forgot - good job headass me) probably understood that & hence didn't prolong the situation.

IKR. Like that's pretty much the only thing that actually got me heated about their relationship. I do believe love is there and they both genuinely care about each other; sex friends wouldn't go as far as they did when it came to getting personally involved, but yata's horny meter breaking every damn minute is toxic. He feels like a different person when they're doing it - literally only listens through his dick. Are his ears for decoration? He's really not aware of how taxing sex can be if overdone, even though he's seen momo's state afterwards. I would've felt better if he took care of momo after doing it - like cleaning him, giving him massages, etc.. but girl... I don't remember reading a scene like that. Communicate with your mouth not your dick im?? Then again, people have different sex drives due to their own hereditary nature. Suppressing them (I think the manga did mention he was never able to date/relieve himself properly because of his behavior during sex so he went on runs instead) for such a long time would naturally lead to an explosion. What I don't understand is how he explodes every goddamn day. God have mercy on momo's ass. Well, Harada's style is pretty toxic itself - some people were even shocked this had a happy ending.

I really reallyyyy adored Harada’s other works but this ones making me ::://// I don’t reallt like the characters as much and I think characterization is a big part in fiction especially in Harada’s works bc you see the grim and raw emotion in human nature. I know there’s suppose to be a realistic take on them and I appreciate how Momo broke down about being sexually assaulted and his mother leaving him but when he shifted into normal lust mode at he speed of light I was like,,,,, ???? Is this suppose to be funny LMAO like I thought Harada was trying to portray how impactful trauma can be. Returning to the characters, I would’ve appreciated Yata more as this tough exterior but soft on the inside and supportive partner and Momo as the guy who laughs everything off although is hurting and supressing everything inside but the manga isn’t really taking the time to show those charms idkkskfkskfmdl Ahh I really appreciate your responses on this )): I’m not even finished with it yet but thank you for hearing me out love <3
OLDER BROTJER NEEDS HIS OWN STORY